That’s right, do not set any new goals, do not make any new commitments, do not take on anything new, do not plan or prepare anything that wasn’t already in progress! How’s that for a shift?
Who said change, transition, growth and forward movement had to be deep, heavy or difficult? Let’s get rid of that concept right now. Let’s step into 2012 with the context of FUN!!!
This is a time to use what you have learned or experienced over the last several months and years to support you in designing a life so inspiring that you can't wait to step into creating and living a life you love. I like to think of it as a Do-Over. Wherever you are in the process of letting go of what is not working, keeping what is working or integrating new practices and actions to enhance your effectiveness, you are in the right place.
If you knew you could have more of what you wanted or be more fully expressed in 2012, what would you be willing to Do-Over, experience, accomplish, be involved in, collaborate or co-create with others?
How to play -
Visualize an Etch-A-Sketch.
Now, place all your unfinished projects, unrealized goals, past resolutions, everything you are currently worried about, afraid of or anticipating on that Etch-A-Sketch. Go ahead, put it all on there. This is a brain dump! Get it out of your head and onto the game board. Do not judge what it looks like or how much is there.
Now take a deep breath and let it out. Imagine turning that game board over and shaking it for at least 30 seconds to a minute. As you shake it, keep taking deep breaths and letting it go. Let go of any guilt, shame, regret or remorse for what you did or didn't do. This is a new moment and a new time. Release all the energy you had on all that you wrote down. Relax your shoulders, relax your jaw, relax your scalp as you take deep breaths.
Now, turn your Etch-A-Sketch over and notice what it feels like to have a clean slate, a second chance, the hindsight and wisdom of what didn’t work before.
In this new moment, everything is possible and everything is new. If you saw the movie Ground Hog Day, this is sort of what I am talking about. You have awakened with an awareness that can be put toward creating and experiencing a life you love!
Rules of the game for your NEXT STEPS.
This is your 2012 Do-Over game and your life! - You cannot place anything on your board that is to imply previous conditioning or beliefs of shoulds or have to’s. (This is not the game of people pleasing, needing to be liked, loved, accepted, or trying to belong or fit in.) That game will not get you where you want to go nor is it sold in my store!
You can only put Do-Over’s that are authentic and important to you on the board!
If you do a Do-Over and it doesn’t work, you get to Do-Over again and again and again. No limit on Do-Over’s. Do-Over till it works for you. (No right or wrong judgments allowed. It either works or doesn’t work. If your result isn’t in alignment with what you want, you get to Do-Over!) There are no failures, only outcomes. This is a perfection free zone!
You are only playing with Do-Over’s from previous situations, promises, agreements, relationships or new years’ resolutions past.
You are taking responsibility for anything you place on the game board. (no whining, complaining, excuses or justifications or waiting to be rescued, etc.)
The game pieces are questions.
The answers to these questions are your clues to move you forward towards revealing the ultimate question which will be revealed when the game is over.
Get a journal, notebook or loose leaf paper and writing instrument and get ready to write.
Write each of the questions below on a clean page. Give yourself plenty of room to write so only put one question on a page.
Allow your answers to flow from question to question in no particular order. Be willing to jot answers down regardless which question provokes an answer. Move from question to question for at least 10 – 15 minutes per play. Play as often as you like. Keep adding answers until you feel you have totally purged your answers. Be honest with yourself and true to the process. The Truth shall set you free!
What promises did I make to myself that I am committing to Do-Over by adjusting, letting go or surrendering?
What promises did I make to others that I am committing to Do-Over by renegotiating, counter-offering or revoking?
Which conversations am I committing to risking, taking on or completing as I Do-Over the ones that didn’t previously work?
Which relationship behaviors am I committing to integrate or change as I Do-Over the ones that haven’t previously worked?
What beliefs, grudges or judgments about a situation or person am I committing to clean up, let go of or surrender as I Do-Over?
Who or what am I committing to forgive or ask forgiveness of as I Do-Over those conversations, events or situations?
What daily practices am I committing to integrate or Do-Over?
What choices am I committing to integrate or Do-Over?
Which standards or boundaries am I going to update, modify, change or enforce as I Do-Over what isn’t working?
Add some of your own questions here.
At the beginning of each week, draw an Etch-A-Sketch on a clean sheet of paper for each day of the week.
On each page, write which actions, conversations or behaviors you will be taking on as you play that week.
Each item is worth 5 Do-Over points.
Declare how many Do-Over points you will make that week and write that # at the top of the page on the first day of each week. No cheating. Write that total # at the beginning of the week.
On the bottom of each page, write the day of the week and record your accomplished points at the end of that day.
At the end of the day, you have either accomplished a Do-Over or you have generated another Do-Over for another day. No right, wrong, good or bad. It either worked or didn’t work.
For the Do-Over's you did not accomplish, simply draw a line through them and add them to other days that week or put them back on the pages of appropriate questions to Do-Over on another day in the future.
Get a buddy or an accountability partner to support you in this process.
Rewards for Playing and re-engaging in your own life -
Your points represent your integrity and your willingness to take responsibility for what you say is important to you. As you practice taking actions in alignment with what you say is important to you, you will experience yourself moving forward with more confidence, courage, integrity, self-trust, peace, happiness, gratitude and joy.
As you become clean, current and complete with what has been out of alignment with your integrity and personal responsibility you will experience of yourself, your relationships and your life situations with flow and ease.
The Grand Prize is that the answers and results to the questions “Who Am I” and “What Do I Want” have been manifested and are in alignment. You truly know yourself and you have produced satisfaction, fulfillment and an enhanced quality of life.
As always, you are free to choose if the game of your life has meaning and if it is worth playing.
If you would like me to be your accountability partner, please contact me at 985-860-8861 or firstname.lastname@example.org.