Shiny Objects

My definition of shiny objects are the people or things that what we give our attention to vs.  being intentional and purposeful in creating and experiencing a life you love or having what you really want and what you say is important to you.  All those things that you allow to sabotage the experiences and outcomes you long for in your life. 

I am going to claim that these shiny objects are learned habits and patterns that feed into our limiting beliefs, negative internal dialog and old programming.  At one time they may have worked to keep you safe or protected in some way.  They are no longer working.  Now the cost of following and chasing shiny objects is holding you back, keeping you stuck and getting in the way of you stepping into your  brilliance, magnificence and endless possibilities. 

The first and most important agent of change is awareness.   This is not an opportunity to make yourself wrong.  If you want anything other than what you currently have, it is an opportunity to see what you can learn so you can make new choices.

What are your shiny objects?

Is your to do list, multi-tasking, endless stream of projects, excuses, drama, blaming others, fears, procrastination, withdrawal, avoidance, need to be approved of, loved, accepted, need to belong or is it the reaching, chasing, grabbing of a more, better, different life?  Is it not having declared standards or boundaries, not having a plan, not requesting support?  Are you more of a crisis manager than a designer of your life?
What would it look like for you to RECOMMIT to living a life you love?

Today is the first day of the rest of your life.  Your past is not an indicator of what is possible for you in the future. You  have power of choice and voice.

What do you want?
What are you going to do about it?
When are you going to do it?

Here are some ways to reframe some limiting beliefs and actions.  You get to discover those that will intervene on your shiny objects. Shifting or letting go of negative or limiting beliefs allow you to choose new actions that create a more empowering future.

Limiting belief - I never finish anything. 

Shiny Object or Limiting action - I might start lots of projects or tasks but not complete them.

Reframe belief to  - I am recommitting to declaring and taking action on what is important to me.

New Action - Set a goal, set smaller benchmarks of completion, ask for support, learn a skill or competence that will increase my possibility of success and completion.
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Limiting belief - It's never enough. 

Shiny Object or Limiting action - I take on more than I am capable of completing. I only see what I don't get done instead of what I do get done.  I go out of my way to be busy so I can do more and not be judged as not enough.

Reframe belief to - I am recommitting to declaring standards of enough action in the areas of ......

New Action - Declare standards of enough. Say NO! Acknowledge all that I do get done. 
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Limiting belief - What's the point?

Shiny Object or Limiting action - I give up and don't complete tasks or promises.  I sabotage my relationships by withdrawing and isolating.  I project the judgment that I am not worthy of your love, friendship, acceptance or forgiveness.  I choose how you feel about me and then I act that out.

Reframe belief to - I am recommitting to creating intention and purpose in my actions and conversations.

New Action - Nurture relationships.  Practice and learn to receive acknowledgment and praise.  Let the already present love, acceptance, friendship, support and forgiveness in. Acknowledge the contribution you are and the difference you make in the lives of others.
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Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, "Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous?" Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

-Marianne Williamson

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