 Mindset - a habitual or characteristic mental attitude that determines how you will interpret and respond to situations Given this definition, you can see that your mindset is the filter of incoming information that has your response or reaction to a situation make sense. It makes sense because you have been practicing it for a long time. It seems natural, automatic and absolute. You can't believe that others don't see it this way. This is merely your personal reality. It is not the absolute truth for everyone else. I am inviting you to be open to the possibility that your current mindset about a particular situation or circumstance is only as effective as your willingness to let it go. Being attached to a mindset can be limiting. Especially when others have different mindsets or when you are not open to seeing things from a different perspective. Left unquestioned, a limited mindset will leave you little room to grow, move, navigate, coordinate and relate with others. When we bring our unwillingness to see a different perspective to a relationship or situation, there is often conflict. There is no right or wrong here. It either works or doesn't work. Only seeing reality through a fixed mindset will diminish your capacity to move forward in times of change, transition or desired outcomes. How is your current mindset limiting your internal experience or external results? What impact will your current mindset about your life situations have in 2016 and beyond? Are you standing in the way of your own success, happiness, joy and fulfillment? Your mindset is possibly the one constraint between where you are now and where you say you want to be in life. I said this last newsletter and I will say it again. Process of Manifestation Your programming creates your thoughts. Your thoughts create your feelings. Your feelings create your actions. Your actions create your results. Regardless of how logical you think your response or reaction to a situation might be, I propose that your emotions have the final say and you are merely responding from your programming. You are on automatic pilot and are not the captain of your ship here. You can examine, reflect, observe and be curious about the programming that created your mindset yet you will continue to recreate your current situations as long as you do not update your programming. That is where transformation happens. When you are willing to let go of who you are for who you can become you free yourself of the old programming that keeps you stuck repeating old habits and patterns. New beginnings can often be awkward, confusing, frustrating, and overwhelming. It doesn't have to be this way. You are not alone in figuring all this out. Visit The Best Year of Your Life tab on my website to be guided through a deeper dive. If you are ready to become the person you want to be more consistently and to live a life you love, visit the upcoming course by clicking here to be redirected to The Best Year of Your Life telephone series. 
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 Another year coming to an end. Whether imposed or by intention some things worked and some things did not work. Keeping the perspective of works or doesn't work is the best way to reflect on the past as you determine what is next to create your future. You are quite a bit wiser from having walked the walk in 2015. So what do you do with this information? Maybe it is time to enhance what is already working or make a few adjustments for what is not working. I suggest you practice being okay and accepting things the way they are at this current moment. What if it didn't have to be wrong? What if there was something to learn? What if this situation were showing you your next growth edge? Remember, Your PROGRAMMING creates your THOUGHTS. Your THOUGHTS create your FEELINGS, Your FEELINGS create your ACTIONS, Your ACTIONS produce your RESULTS. What habits are showing up in your programming, thoughts, feelings, actions or results? Will those habits get you more of what you want in 2016? Is it time to see this as a fork in the road to make choices from intention and purpose rather than old programming and limiting beliefs? The best way to gain perspective and create a plan for what is next, is to disconnect from the tendency to feel like you have "not done enough" or "failed"" or "done it wrong". There will always be projects, goals, dreams, relationships and opportunities. You will not be served by thinking or believing it is too late or that your value or worth is determined by the outcome of the situations in your life. You matter and what you want in life matters. What if I told you, this is just a fork in the road and regardless which road you take, you will be okay? What if you were to believe that there is additional wisdom ready to take you through the next breakthrough, goal, project, dream, relationship and opportunity? What if I told you 2016 is another walk and another opportunity to dust off the cobwebs on the life you envisioned you wanted to live and make it happen! New beginnings can often be awkward, confusing, frustrating, and overwhelming. It doesn't have to be this way. You are not alone in figuring all this out. Visit The Best Year of Your Life tab on my website to be guided through a deeper dive. If you are ready to become the person you want to be more consistently and to live a life you love, visit the upcoming course by clicking here to be redirected to The Best Year of Your Life telephone series.   About 15 yrs. ago I enrolled and participated in a class to learn how to drive a motorcycle. One of the terms we learned was SIPDE. In driver safety, it meant, scan, identify, predict, decide, execute. That term has stayed with me all these years and can be applied to life.
We often SCAN what is going on outside of us. We IDENTIFY where or what needs our participation, where we can influence or how we could make an impact. We PREDICT what will happen if we take action or don't take action. We DECIDE what we can or will do about the situation. Then we EXECUTE the plan or logic that made sense at the time of what words to speak or action to take. It is automatic and very easy to fall into the trap that everything outside of us requires our time, energy or attention. That's why it is crucial to consider that not everything is at it seems. Just when you think things are falling apart, they might be falling into place. Taking on everything from the perspective that it is your responsibility to fix, manage, control or figure out will wear you out and exhaust your resources. That way of doing things is not sustainable. That is one reason life situations often seem out of balance, chaotic, defeated or confusing. It is an opportunity to wake up and get refocused. Don't assume that everything that is happening is a bad thing. It might be perfect timing for you to re-evaluate and get back on course with the intentions, goals and dreams you had prior to the interruptions and distractions of the external and internal noise calling for your attention. So as the new year rolls around it might be a great time to dust off some old perspectives that everything outside of you that is happening in the lives of others is your problem. How can you use the acronym SIPDE to: SCAN - the situations and relationships that you have taken responsibility for and to what degree is that working or not working IDENTIFY - what is truly important and meaningful to you and what shoulds, attachments, beliefs, fears and expectations would you have to let go of or surrender to be consistently and effectively moving in the direction of your desired outcomes PREDICT - what is likely to happen if you do not make any changes and what would be possible if you were open and willing to make adjustments in alignment with what you say really matters DECIDE - what new beliefs, interpretations, perspectives, actions, boundaries, standards, support structures, goals, training or conversations would be required to have a solid foundation of consistency and effectiveness EXECUTE - a plan of action that will move you in the direction of your desired outcomes and results While we can't control what others say or do, what we can control is how we respond, interpret and make decisions in the midst of it all. The art of effectiveness, prosperity and satisfaction starts within. What has us at odds with where we are and where we would like to be in our life situations comes down to our ability and capacity to consistently learn, monitor and manage how to refocus our energy, time, attention, thoughts, words and actions. You are not alone in figuring all this out. Visit The Best Year of Your Life tab on my website to be guided through a deeper dive. One of the primary intentions I took on as a coach was to be a partner with people as they define, claim and take action on what they say matters in their life. I honestly believe that when we step up and take responsibility for our own lives, the chaos and clutter in the external world will disappear. It seems like blaming, complaining and explaining has taken the place of living a life of integrity and personal responsibility. We have plenty enough to take care of in our own lives, we don't need to be pointing the finger at anyone else. It's not that stuff won't happen in your life, it is who do you become you when it does? Who you become as you move through life's joys, sufferings and challenges is where you get to meet yourself on a moment by moment basis. To authentically know yourself is to fully experience everything that enhances or limits your growth, capacity and evolution. For it is only when you are willing to tell the truth and meet yourself in every possibility and every limitation that you will be set free to make choices that are authentic, empowering and fully expressed. In my 20 + yrs. of personal and professional transformational learning, client and workshop experience I have seen it time and time again. When you begin to make choices in alignment with what is important and meaningful to you, your life, current situations and the experience of yourself and your connection to others changes. If you are ready to become the person you want to be more consistently and to live a life you love, visit the upcoming course by clicking here to be redirected to The Best Year of Your Life telephone series. Contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP!  Think of a time that you felt like a winner! Whether you accomplished a goal, helped someone in need or worked through something difficult, you felt really good about who you were or what you did to produce a result, ease someone's suffering or both.
Do you see yourself as a winner on a regular basis or do you have really high expectations of yourself and rarely reflect and feel good about being or doing ENOUGH? Imagine your life if you could release any negative judgment you have about who you are or what great things are wanting to happen in your life. Trust me when I say you are a winner! If you were to tell me your life story I bet there are multiple times when you were acknowledged for a job well done, thanked and appreciated by someone, acted in ways that you were excited about, proud of or felt lifted as a result of having stepped up to the plate. I call that your hero. Your hero is a demonstration of bringing forth qualities that allow you to connect to your inner strength. Your hero is what has you care and contribute. Your hero is what has you dare and dream. Your hero is what shows up when the going gets tough. Your hero is waiting to be unleashed. There are great things wanting to happen in your life and the lives of others. Your hero qualities are a vehicle for manifestation, magnificence and miracles. My invitation today is to unleash your hero and any layer or level of your magnificence you have been holding back. Do that for the remainder of 2015 and sit back and watch miracles happen in your life and the lives of others. Make the remainder of 2015 the result of the best of the best of who you are and what's possible if you really UNLEASHED YOUR HERO! I believe in you. Take this challenge and drop me a line to let me know what amazing internal experiences and external results you created. If you are unsure how to get started or what to do next, contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP! I hear you! Yes, there is now and always will be noise in the head justifying what you are doing, saying or feeling. I am not arguing that. However, I claim, you can diminish the limiting noise and recurring suffering as you move about in your day to day life.
Would it be worth it to you to be able to trust your choices in the midst of everyday distractions? How would your life be different if all of your choices were in alignment with what is most important to you long-term? Are you truly choosing or are you caught up in distractions and auto-pilot? What might seem like a decision is all too often a distraction. Think about it, are your choices an attempt to take yourself away from a thought, feeling, fear or obstacle? Are you moving farther away from what you say is important long-term? How do the choices made by distractions limit your experience of peace, confidence or fulfillment? Empty choices lead to empty promises to yourself and others. Is that working? Examples: Internal and external competing commitments or distractions
Predict - Based on what you know about yourself or others, how likely are you going to repeat a habit or pattern that is not in alignment with long-term fulfillment? Plan - What commitments do you need to make a priority and stick to them to accomplish long-term fulfillment and a sense of control, empowerment or self-trust in your thoughts, words or actions? Prepare - What adjustments will you need to make either pre or post decision to assure your success? Will you need support, additional resources or training, blocked time, realistic expectations and standards, boundaries, questions to get grounded, etc? Taken from the book, The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions to Guide You to an Extraordinary Life by Debbie Ford
Contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP! Stand up, move your arms out to the side, shoulder height, take a deep breath, release the breath with arms extended, and say;
I am amazing! I have done some pretty cool stuff this year! I have created many lasing memories! I am not done yet! I have unlimited possibilities and I intend to move forward on some of them! I am living a life I love! I am true to myself, my dreams and my deepest longings! I am ready to marvel in my magnificence! Add as many of your own affirmations as you want here. Now, get a piece of paper, and write down 10 things that you accomplished, took action on, completed or that others acknowledged you for doing for them in 2015. For each of those 10 things you claimed, go back and write how you felt either during or after each of those 10 things were completed. Now, read what you did and how you felt and after each one, take a deep breath to claim and anchor each success and the experience. It might sound like this. I cooked lunch and shared it with friend and I felt connected. Then take a deep breath and claim that moment. Notice how you feel as you move down the list. Notice if your breathing gets deeper, if your body softens, relaxes, begins to smile or cry. Just notice any subtle shift in thought, emotion or insight as you shower yourself with acknowledgment and anchor in those experiences. This is claiming the action and anchoring in the feeling whether you thought it was worth noting or someone else took the time to tell you it was appreciated. When we anchor in our successes, accomplishments, actions or things we feel really good about having done or said, we build layers of confidence, self-trust and clarity about who we are and what matters to us. It's too easy and automatic to focus on what didn't get done at the end of the day. This process is designed to shift your attention and energy in a positive direction so that you are better equipped to make choices in alignment with what you say is important to you. Integrating a habit of claiming and anchoring at least 5 actions, tasks, accomplishments you feel good about or acknowledgments from others per day will allow your energy to flow in the direction of joy, ambition, excitement, fulfillment, self-worth, dignity, etc. Acknowledgment is also a form of completion. Completion frees you up for what is next. I am here to support you in asking questions, offering practices, action steps and giving feedback to move through any situation in life that is currently having you live a life on hold. Contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP!  How many times have you heard yourself ask, How do I....? Or say, I don't know how to... Often times that is an automatic, programmed and default question or response. For lack of a better question or response, it seems to fit the reason you may be stuck, confused or limited. This is an opportunity to interrupt a limiting thought or behavior pattern. From the mindset of something is missing or lack of, the focus is on something outside of yourself or your capacity. Relax and reclaim your potential and possibilities.
It is usually not about HOW. It is often about knowing or believing you don't like the options you already have to make it happen. It can also be an attempt to look for an easier route to get the end result or to get someone to tell you what to do, or to do it for you. Creating or achieving a desired result requires taking responsibility and a willingness to learn the mindsets and programming that makes the how to do something a place of wonder and growing instead of a place of suffering. Unraveling those layers will set you free of needing to know prior to starting. Suffering is a CALL TO ACTION! While how can be a very good question, I have come to believe more effective and productive questions are; When will I...,Who do I know who..., Where can I learn...? First things first. The how to comes after you have chosen and committed to get started and explored the support, resources or mentors that can assist you in creating a plan for the how to. You can spend countless hours in how to and never commit to starting. Your energy and focus are on an ineffective strategy. In my 25 + years of personal development work, how is the question that people ask the most. When I hear that question, it automatically has me believe they either have a pattern of needing to know all aspects and details before they begin or an excuse of not knowing so they don't ever have to start. Either way, it can lead to a feeling of being inadequate, stupid, a failure or incompetent. Those internal feelings are fuel for sabotage an experience that the situation or event is hopeless or bigger than you. How many times have you used I don't know how as an excuse to either not start or to suffer about what you don't know? Human beings are creatures of habit. I claim you have access to everything you would possibly need to know. The problem comes when you think you need to know it all before you get started. If we get in the habit of having to know before we begin, we are stuck, on hold, hostage so to speak until we know. That is a trap. It is a step by step process. There is no need to overwhelm yourself with needing to know every detail and aspect as though it would seamlessly work out that way. Beneath the I don't know how there are usually additional layers of I need to be right, I need to be confident, there is a perfect way to do it and would others judge or assess me as doing it well, perfect or right. So, the question of how diminishes our capacity to step forth in the trusting that we will figure it out and learn what we need to learn along the way for the step that is presenting itself in the moment. The additional suffering from the added layers has you focus so far in the future that you take yourself out of the only moment you have which is right now to figure it out. Asking the question when will I start...creates clarity and focus for what's needed in preparation for the start date. Rather than ask, how do I get through this? I suggest you shift the question to when will I choose to take action, let go, surrender or be willing to learn? Putting a target date on a task, project or situation allows a plan to unfold in the necessary time to accomplish the job at hand. I am here to support you in asking questions, offering practices, action steps and giving feedback to move through any situation in life that is currently having you live a life on hold. Contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP!  6 Steps to release, refocus and redirect your energy and attention from Busy to Balanced
There is no doubt on any given day you can get a lot done. That is not the issue. The issue is how much of that are you on automatic pilot. Whether you can't remember what you did or don't feel as though you accomplished anything of importance, you are caught up in a rut and pattern. Until you change the pattern by identifying the elements that keep the pattern in place, it is unlikely that things will be different. Awareness is the beginning key to change. I have outlined a 6 step process that you can implement to increase your effectiveness, productivity and sense of fulfillment in the process. In the end, you will feel more equipped to design and create more of what you want and less of what you don't want. It is not necessary to lose yourself in the midst of life situations. By laying a foundation of indicators and actions, you will no longer have to suffer or struggle in making choices or feeling unequipped to handle whatever comes up. 1.) Become an observer. Imagine that you are a battery and your energy and capacity to fulfill all of your promises, commitments and responsibilities could be measured in percentage. Where are you on the scale of 0% to 100% in feeling equipped to make it all happen or get it all done? 2.) Identify the thoughts, words and actions that have you feel depleted or diminished. How much energy is drained when your attention is focused on what is not working? Whatever you focus on will be magnified. 3.) Identify what you would like to be different. Block time to get clear of your desired results. Without judgement, write down what is most important to you being, doing or having in all areas of your life. Be willing to release the need to be liked, get approval or permission to have the life you want. This is YOUR deepest longings and desires. 4.) What shifts or redirection of thoughts, words and actions would support the new or enhanced results? What would you have to be willing to let go of, release, surrender or accept to be more balanced and available to take responsibility for what you say is important? How are you taking too much responsibility for others and not enough responsibility for yourself? 5.) Create rituals, practices and habits in alignment with what you say you want. Whether internal thoughts or external actions, there are limitless choices that can start the release, refocus and redirection of attention and energy to getting more of what you want. 6.) When you find yourself off track or stuck, rinse and repeat. As you practice being a better observer, you will be more conscious and in tune to when you are caught up in busy vs. productive or effective. The good news is you won't stay there as long if you are willing to monitor and manage your choices in thought, word and action. To learn more or to be a part of a deeper cut into your unique road map to more effectiveness, productivity, peace, fulfillment and uthentic choice, join us for the Self - Care: From Busy to Balanced one day course on Sept. 26, 2015. If you are unable to attend, you can contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP! YES! The time is NOW to create, design, plan and live a life you love. No more waiting, complaining, blaming, dreaming, hoping or praying that it will happen on its own or that someone will do it for you.
The only way this will happen is if you step out of fantasy and into reality that it is up to you to take responsibility for what you say is important to you. There is just no other way to say it. The life you want is just outside of your comfort zone. What are you putting on hold? What is the fear or belief that gets in the way of you taking action on what you say is important? Who are you blaming for the condition of your health, finances, relationships, friendships, career, etc.? Who are you waiting for permission or approval from? What will it take for you to step outside of your comfort zone? What is one action you could take today or this week that would allow you to get on the road to creating and living a life you love? I am here to support you in asking questions and giving feedback to move through any situation in life that is currently having you live a life on hold. Contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP! Think of a child equipped with a pail and shovel walking on the beach. At some point the child will claim a spot to explore, dig and sift through the sand in a state of wonder for what will be discovered. Time is not an issue when one is in this state of mind. It is intention and belief that fuel the openness and willingness to do the work that will reap a reward. A tiny pebble or bug will easily excite and amuse in this state of wonder.
Call to mind a time when you experienced a state of wonder, curiosity or possibilities. This state of mind is free of distractions and internal chatter. It's always there waiting to be called upon for whatever is going on in your life. Always remember, you have the power to reclaim and practice that childlike wonder, curiosity and belief in possibilities everyday regardless of the situation. The left side of the table below are some of the most common culprits that limit human energy, clarity, productivity, courage, joy, peace, happiness, confidence, success, fun, adventure and satisfaction. What would you have to be willing to take responsibility for to discover a shift or possibility in a current life situation? Filters & actions that keep you stuck, limited or disempowered closed minded - repeating old habits & patterns - unaware of limiting moods & emotions - fear - judgements - attachments - resistance & avoidance - expectations - hidden agendas - negative or limiting beliefs - living in stories & interpretation - distractions Filters and actions that create create possibilities & empowerment open minded - creating new habits & structures - able to observe & shift - courage - acceptance - open to multiple outcomes - taking action - tell the truth - empowering beliefs - living in facts & information - focus Awareness is crucial in being able to move through any situation. The moment you become aware, things are different. From that new state or mindset, you can implement the necessary structures, habits and support to assure your success. The treasure and empowerment you will discover is limitless! Your capacity to intervene on and dig deeper into any situation or relationship will be in direct correlation to the openness, willingness and energy you use to explore, process and sort information. Contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP! |
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