by Denise Palmisano
My claim has always been that you have all you need to handle whatever comes up and to create a life you love. Who you are now, your life situations and who you can become are not predetermined, limited or fixed.
I invite you to put yourself in a similar situation as the children, teenagers and young adults getting ready to head back to the classroom. Ask yourself the same question, Who do you want to be when you grow up? That question can also be applied to those of us who are for the most part past the traditional classroom environments. Just because we are out of school, doesn't mean our learning has stopped or that our possibilities have ended.
When I ask the question, "Who do you want to be when you grow up"?, this truly is as simple as it gets.
Bottom line is, if your thoughts, words and actions are not in alignment with who you want to become or where you say you want to be, then, that is where you are out of integrity. That gap often has us experience our lives as though something is missing. We do not feel fulfilled, satisfied, alive, passionate or engaged in our own life.
To move forward and shift your current experience of yourself or your life, it will require you to acknowledge the gap and take responsibility or ownership for the thoughts, words and actions that will have you experience more of what you want. So the next question becomes, "Where am I out of integrity"? This can be an empowering question that allows intention, passion, rebirth, commitment, learning, possibilities and versatility to emerge. This is only the beginning. I will explore more about integrity in future newsletters, courses and workshops.
For now, I invite you to get excited as you continue to discover and reveal where you are out of alignment. Those are areas that you can do something about. When we stop looking for areas that we are out of alignment, it is easy to focus on what's wrong, blame others, avoid, entertain addictions and settle for an unexpressed and unlived life.
One of the primary intentions I took on as a coach was to be a partner with people as they define, claim and take action on what they say matters in their life. I honestly believe that when we step up and take responsibility for our own lives, the chaos and clutter in the external world will disappear. It seems like blaming, complaining and explaining has taken the place of living a life of integrity and personal responsibility. We have plenty enough to take care of in our own lives, we don't need to be pointing the finger at anyone else. It's not that stuff won't happen in your life, it is who do you become you when it does?
So if you are still asking the age old question "Who am I", look around in your life. The answer to that is clear. What do you see? How would you describe the kind of person that is living your life? If what you see is not what you want, then why settle for who you are now? Choose to become the person you want to be. Be willing to let go of who you are now for who you can become! It might be time for you to reclaim those parts of you that you have denied, hidden, pushed aside and judged.
I invite you to look around in your life for any area that is not in alignment with what you say is important to you. What are you doing about it? When your thoughts, words and actions are in alignment with what you say matters, you will no longer entertain questions, excuses, interpretations or beliefs that don't serve anything but to keep you stuck in a life of mediocrity and status quo.
Who you become as you move through life's joys, sufferings and challenges is where you get to meet yourself on a moment by moment basis. To authentically know yourself is to fully experience everything that enhances or limits your growth, capacity and evolvement. For it is only when you are willing to tell the truth and meet yourself in every possibility and every limitation that you will be set free to make choices that are authentic, empowering and fully expressed.
I invite you to really stop and answer the question, "Who do you want to be when you grow up"? I encourage you to revisit it as an ongoing check in to see if you are in alignment with who you want to become as you continue this journey we call life.
In my 20 + yrs. of personal transformational learning, client and workshop experience I have seen it time and time again. When you begin to make choices in alignment with what is important and meaningful to you, your life, current situations and the experience of yourself and your connection to it all will change.
I would love to hear how integrity and responsibility show up in your life. You can make a comment on this blog page or drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Contact me for a free consultation to explore the topic of integrity and responsibility in your life. This is a huge subject and this is only the tip of the iceberg.
YOU HAVE THE POWER to reinvent yourself moment by moment. ARE YOU READY to experience how good it could really be - TO BE YOU?