Holding On or Moving On

By Denise Palmisano

I used to think being peaceful, successful or happy was to strive to avoid interruptions, setbacks or breakdowns in my plan, agenda or attachment to an outcome that wasn't working for me.  At the same time, I also thought that if I could hold onto an experience, person and situation that was working for me I would be peaceful, successful and happy.  I am here to admit, I was wrong with both of those beliefs. 

That is not always the most effective way to navigate or experience life or relationships.  While there are actions, structures and plans I can put in place for some things, it is not the rule.  There are no guarantees.  Control is an illusion.  It is a false sense of safety and security designed to generate and perpetuate fear, scarcity, overwhelm and disconnection from yourself and others. 

Old programming has everyone up to the same thing.  Maybe you are currently experiencing being controlled or manipulated by others.  Are you allowing yourself to be held hostage in their agendas, attachments and plans of what will work for them and not necessarily for you?  Likewise, are you holding others hostage in your agendas, attachments or plans?

Observing how you and others hold on and generate this crazy making will allow you to see how and where to take responsibility to interrupt and intervene as part of your own dignity and integrity.

The mere fact that we spend so much time and energy managing, controlling or manipulating in order to have things constantly line up to our satisfaction is evidence of how out of control we really are.

You, your life situations, people and the universe are constantly moving, changing, transitioning and evolving.  To try to hold on at any level is like trying to hold your breath and expecting not to have to gasp for air or pass out.  Your resistance to the natural flow of life is limiting your possibilities and experiences.

I am going to suggest, you will have more of the experiences that are important to you when you are open to learning, designing, navigating, coordinating and integrating in the midst of your ongoing and everyday life situations.  Trusting that you have all you need for whatever comes up is your safety and security. 

You can resign as general manager of the universe.  You no longer have to put your life on hold as you wait for the perfect situations to line up before you move forward on the things that really matter to you.  You get to live your life full out in each moment.

Trying to hold on can lead to unnecessary tension, stress, disease and disconnection.  It is possible to learn how to intentionally and purposefully, question, observe and choose what you want to risk, experience and create. 

What are you holding onto? 

What's the pay off or benefit?

What's the cost of holding on?

Are you ready to move on and end the crazy making?