 Mindset - a habitual or characteristic mental attitude that determines how you will interpret and respond to situations Given this definition, you can see that your mindset is the filter of incoming information that has your response or reaction to a situation make sense. It makes sense because you have been practicing it for a long time. It seems natural, automatic and absolute. You can't believe that others don't see it this way. This is merely your personal reality. It is not the absolute truth for everyone else. I am inviting you to be open to the possibility that your current mindset about a particular situation or circumstance is only as effective as your willingness to let it go. Being attached to a mindset can be limiting. Especially when others have different mindsets or when you are not open to seeing things from a different perspective. Left unquestioned, a limited mindset will leave you little room to grow, move, navigate, coordinate and relate with others. When we bring our unwillingness to see a different perspective to a relationship or situation, there is often conflict. There is no right or wrong here. It either works or doesn't work. Only seeing reality through a fixed mindset will diminish your capacity to move forward in times of change, transition or desired outcomes. How is your current mindset limiting your internal experience or external results? What impact will your current mindset about your life situations have in 2016 and beyond? Are you standing in the way of your own success, happiness, joy and fulfillment? Your mindset is possibly the one constraint between where you are now and where you say you want to be in life. I said this last newsletter and I will say it again. Process of Manifestation Your programming creates your thoughts. Your thoughts create your feelings. Your feelings create your actions. Your actions create your results. Regardless of how logical you think your response or reaction to a situation might be, I propose that your emotions have the final say and you are merely responding from your programming. You are on automatic pilot and are not the captain of your ship here. You can examine, reflect, observe and be curious about the programming that created your mindset yet you will continue to recreate your current situations as long as you do not update your programming. That is where transformation happens. When you are willing to let go of who you are for who you can become you free yourself of the old programming that keeps you stuck repeating old habits and patterns. New beginnings can often be awkward, confusing, frustrating, and overwhelming. It doesn't have to be this way. You are not alone in figuring all this out. Visit The Best Year of Your Life tab on my website to be guided through a deeper dive. If you are ready to become the person you want to be more consistently and to live a life you love, visit the upcoming course by clicking here to be redirected to The Best Year of Your Life telephone series. 
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 Another year coming to an end. Whether imposed or by intention some things worked and some things did not work. Keeping the perspective of works or doesn't work is the best way to reflect on the past as you determine what is next to create your future. You are quite a bit wiser from having walked the walk in 2015. So what do you do with this information? Maybe it is time to enhance what is already working or make a few adjustments for what is not working. I suggest you practice being okay and accepting things the way they are at this current moment. What if it didn't have to be wrong? What if there was something to learn? What if this situation were showing you your next growth edge? Remember, Your PROGRAMMING creates your THOUGHTS. Your THOUGHTS create your FEELINGS, Your FEELINGS create your ACTIONS, Your ACTIONS produce your RESULTS. What habits are showing up in your programming, thoughts, feelings, actions or results? Will those habits get you more of what you want in 2016? Is it time to see this as a fork in the road to make choices from intention and purpose rather than old programming and limiting beliefs? The best way to gain perspective and create a plan for what is next, is to disconnect from the tendency to feel like you have "not done enough" or "failed"" or "done it wrong". There will always be projects, goals, dreams, relationships and opportunities. You will not be served by thinking or believing it is too late or that your value or worth is determined by the outcome of the situations in your life. You matter and what you want in life matters. What if I told you, this is just a fork in the road and regardless which road you take, you will be okay? What if you were to believe that there is additional wisdom ready to take you through the next breakthrough, goal, project, dream, relationship and opportunity? What if I told you 2016 is another walk and another opportunity to dust off the cobwebs on the life you envisioned you wanted to live and make it happen! New beginnings can often be awkward, confusing, frustrating, and overwhelming. It doesn't have to be this way. You are not alone in figuring all this out. Visit The Best Year of Your Life tab on my website to be guided through a deeper dive. If you are ready to become the person you want to be more consistently and to live a life you love, visit the upcoming course by clicking here to be redirected to The Best Year of Your Life telephone series.   About 15 yrs. ago I enrolled and participated in a class to learn how to drive a motorcycle. One of the terms we learned was SIPDE. In driver safety, it meant, scan, identify, predict, decide, execute. That term has stayed with me all these years and can be applied to life.
We often SCAN what is going on outside of us. We IDENTIFY where or what needs our participation, where we can influence or how we could make an impact. We PREDICT what will happen if we take action or don't take action. We DECIDE what we can or will do about the situation. Then we EXECUTE the plan or logic that made sense at the time of what words to speak or action to take. It is automatic and very easy to fall into the trap that everything outside of us requires our time, energy or attention. That's why it is crucial to consider that not everything is at it seems. Just when you think things are falling apart, they might be falling into place. Taking on everything from the perspective that it is your responsibility to fix, manage, control or figure out will wear you out and exhaust your resources. That way of doing things is not sustainable. That is one reason life situations often seem out of balance, chaotic, defeated or confusing. It is an opportunity to wake up and get refocused. Don't assume that everything that is happening is a bad thing. It might be perfect timing for you to re-evaluate and get back on course with the intentions, goals and dreams you had prior to the interruptions and distractions of the external and internal noise calling for your attention. So as the new year rolls around it might be a great time to dust off some old perspectives that everything outside of you that is happening in the lives of others is your problem. How can you use the acronym SIPDE to: SCAN - the situations and relationships that you have taken responsibility for and to what degree is that working or not working IDENTIFY - what is truly important and meaningful to you and what shoulds, attachments, beliefs, fears and expectations would you have to let go of or surrender to be consistently and effectively moving in the direction of your desired outcomes PREDICT - what is likely to happen if you do not make any changes and what would be possible if you were open and willing to make adjustments in alignment with what you say really matters DECIDE - what new beliefs, interpretations, perspectives, actions, boundaries, standards, support structures, goals, training or conversations would be required to have a solid foundation of consistency and effectiveness EXECUTE - a plan of action that will move you in the direction of your desired outcomes and results While we can't control what others say or do, what we can control is how we respond, interpret and make decisions in the midst of it all. The art of effectiveness, prosperity and satisfaction starts within. What has us at odds with where we are and where we would like to be in our life situations comes down to our ability and capacity to consistently learn, monitor and manage how to refocus our energy, time, attention, thoughts, words and actions. You are not alone in figuring all this out. Visit The Best Year of Your Life tab on my website to be guided through a deeper dive. One of the primary intentions I took on as a coach was to be a partner with people as they define, claim and take action on what they say matters in their life. I honestly believe that when we step up and take responsibility for our own lives, the chaos and clutter in the external world will disappear. It seems like blaming, complaining and explaining has taken the place of living a life of integrity and personal responsibility. We have plenty enough to take care of in our own lives, we don't need to be pointing the finger at anyone else. It's not that stuff won't happen in your life, it is who do you become you when it does? Who you become as you move through life's joys, sufferings and challenges is where you get to meet yourself on a moment by moment basis. To authentically know yourself is to fully experience everything that enhances or limits your growth, capacity and evolution. For it is only when you are willing to tell the truth and meet yourself in every possibility and every limitation that you will be set free to make choices that are authentic, empowering and fully expressed. In my 20 + yrs. of personal and professional transformational learning, client and workshop experience I have seen it time and time again. When you begin to make choices in alignment with what is important and meaningful to you, your life, current situations and the experience of yourself and your connection to others changes. If you are ready to become the person you want to be more consistently and to live a life you love, visit the upcoming course by clicking here to be redirected to The Best Year of Your Life telephone series. Contact me at, 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com. to be your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP! |
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