Show Up or Shut Up
_QUIT FIGHTING FOR YOUR LIMITATIONS!!!
Let this year be the year that you draw that line in the sand and say IT's MY TURN!
There's no way to sugar coat this. You don't live a life you love by accident. It takes intention and purposeful living to show up in your life. It takes planning, discipline, commitment, practice, persistence, courage, time, letting go of what doesn't work and taking on what does work. Step by step, you can move through any limitation or life situation. The only person holding you hostage in an unfulfilled life is YOU!
Imagine everything you want is waiting on the other side of the finish line. Did you hear what I said. It's not about getting to the finish line, it is about going THROUGH and PAST the finish line. Don't give up on YOU!
You can only win the race if you first, get in the race and second finish the race! You can choose to get in the race or you can choose to sit on the sidelines. Either way it is your life and your choice. What's it going to be?
What do you really want? What have you been putting on hold? How would your life be different if you could finally break through the barriers and obstacles that are holding you back from living a life you love?
NOW IS THE TIME to address the layers of limitations you have been fighting for. You are not alone! Each and every one of us has had some sort of trauma, accident, undesired experience, frustration, limitation, change of life situation or disappointment. To the degree you are holding onto the story you are telling about the situation or how you have labeled yourself as a result of that situation is the degree you are fighting for your limitation.
You are the keeper of your experiences, possibilities and opportunities. You can choose to tell the truth and move through your excuses, justifications, surface triggers and reactions, limiting beliefs, non-forwarding stories, unhealed and unprocessed emotions and unanswered questions or you can continue to fight for your limitations. If you are serious about things being different in your life then things can be.
This is not a dress rehearsal. This is your life. You only win if you SHOW UP and take responsibility for your life.
No one knows what time they have left but you do have NOW.
My invitation to you is to SHOW UP in your life. If you are ready to do that. R.S.V.P. to me at 985-860-8861 or email firstname.lastname@example.org
All Is Well In My World
In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect, whole, and complete. Each one of us, myself included, experiences the richness and fullness of life in ways that are meaningful to us. I now look at the past with love and choose to learn form my old experiences. There is no right or wrong, nor good or bad. The past is over and done. There is only the experience of the moment. I love myself for bringing myself through this past into this present moment. I share what and who I am, for I know we are all one in Spirit. All is well in my world. -Louise L. Hay
If you are interested in the work of Louise L. Hay, you can contact my dear friend and fellow coach, Carolee Laffoon a Certified Heal Your Life® Coach. I have participated in some of her workshops and she is amazing.
Carolee Laffoon, PE, MBA
Certified Heal Your Life® Coach
Love Life and Achieve Your Dreams
Oxygen & It's Parallel To Life
_ If you have ever been on an airplane and listened to the safety briefing, the attendant will explain the reason for and the proper use of an oxygen mask. They say you must put your mask on first then help those that are seated near you.
To me, it parallels life. I would suspect many of us have disregarded the need to take care of ourselves first. We may even find ourselves and our resources exhausted, depleted or absent from time to time due to the many ways we give ourselves or our resources away.
Instead of putting on our oxygen mask first with the situations and circumstances of our lives, we hurry and scurry about trying to fix, manage and control the people in our lives. Often we do this out of some sense that we are helping, supporting, taking care or easing suffering. We find ways to step in even when they didn't ask us and we are upset when they ignore, refuse or dismiss our attempts to ease their pain or suffering. Even if they accept our offer, it usually comes with unspoken attachments, agendas or conditions. Notice the many subtle ways oxygen or "life" can be drained from relationships.
In our attempt to give, we actually take away the potential for others to take responsibility for themselves. Their learning, growth and potential is diminished when we make their business ours. It is like we are taking their oxygen mask away from them.
What if the suffering you are really trying to diminish is that which is inside of you? When we project our own internal, unhealed, unprocessed or incomplete suffering onto others, we go to sleep on where the real healing and taking care can make a difference. It is like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic.
Practicing taking care of yourself with healthy and forwarding thoughts, words and actions will diminish the futile attempts to unconsciously "get your real needs met" through engaging with the situations and circumstances of other people's stuff. Observe this as a turning point and practice putting your oxygen mask on first while allowing others to do the same.
Now, don't get me wrong. There are people that love when you step in. It takes the responsibility off of them. It also gives them someone to blame when things don't work out. Pay attention to the oxygen drains in your life. Are they people, thoughts, emotions, actions, choices, attachments, beliefs, etc? And on the flip side, where or with whom are you an oxygen drain on others?
Next time you feel frantic, anxious, stressed or fearful of what is going on in someone else's life, stop, put your oxygen mask on, take a deep breath and look inward. Notice what belief, story, judgment or attachment is calling for your attention and ask yourself a question.
Am I taking too much responsibility for others or not enough responsibility for myself?
What can you do to turn the attention back on you and your unhealed, unprocessed or incomplete thoughts, words and actions?
Your partner in possibilities and your NEXT STEP! Contact me at 985-860-8861 or email@example.com.
_ It’s time to get your game on and I have the perfect game board for you. I am proposing that 2012 be the year of DO-OVER’s and your game board is an Etch-A-Sketch.
That’s right, do not set any new goals, do not make any new commitments, do not take on anything new, do not plan or prepare anything that wasn’t already in progress! How’s that for a shift?
Who said change, transition, growth and forward movement had to be deep, heavy or difficult? Let’s get rid of that concept right now. Let’s step into 2012 with the context of FUN!!!
This is a time to use what you have learned or experienced over the last several months and years to support you in designing a life so inspiring that you can't wait to step into creating and living a life you love. I like to think of it as a Do-Over. Wherever you are in the process of letting go of what is not working, keeping what is working or integrating new practices and actions to enhance your effectiveness, you are in the right place.
If you knew you could have more of what you wanted or be more fully expressed in 2012, what would you be willing to Do-Over, experience, accomplish, be involved in, collaborate or co-create with others?
How to play -
Visualize an Etch-A-Sketch.
Now, place all your unfinished projects, unrealized goals, past resolutions, everything you are currently worried about, afraid of or anticipating on that Etch-A-Sketch. Go ahead, put it all on there. This is a brain dump! Get it out of your head and onto the game board. Do not judge what it looks like or how much is there.
Now take a deep breath and let it out. Imagine turning that game board over and shaking it for at least 30 seconds to a minute. As you shake it, keep taking deep breaths and letting it go. Let go of any guilt, shame, regret or remorse for what you did or didn't do. This is a new moment and a new time. Release all the energy you had on all that you wrote down. Relax your shoulders, relax your jaw, relax your scalp as you take deep breaths.
Now, turn your Etch-A-Sketch over and notice what it feels like to have a clean slate, a second chance, the hindsight and wisdom of what didn’t work before.
In this new moment, everything is possible and everything is new. If you saw the movie Ground Hog Day, this is sort of what I am talking about. You have awakened with an awareness that can be put toward creating and experiencing a life you love!
Rules of the game for your NEXT STEPS.
This is your 2012 Do-Over game and your life! - You cannot place anything on your board that is to imply previous conditioning or beliefs of shoulds or have to’s. (This is not the game of people pleasing, needing to be liked, loved, accepted, or trying to belong or fit in.) That game will not get you where you want to go nor is it sold in my store!
You can only put Do-Over’s that are authentic and important to you on the board!
If you do a Do-Over and it doesn’t work, you get to Do-Over again and again and again. No limit on Do-Over’s. Do-Over till it works for you. (No right or wrong judgments allowed. It either works or doesn’t work. If your result isn’t in alignment with what you want, you get to Do-Over!) There are no failures, only outcomes. This is a perfection free zone!
You are only playing with Do-Over’s from previous situations, promises, agreements, relationships or new years’ resolutions past.
You are taking responsibility for anything you place on the game board. (no whining, complaining, excuses or justifications or waiting to be rescued, etc.)
The game pieces are questions.
The answers to these questions are your clues to move you forward towards revealing the ultimate question which will be revealed when the game is over.
Get a journal, notebook or loose leaf paper and writing instrument and get ready to write.
Write each of the questions below on a clean page. Give yourself plenty of room to write so only put one question on a page.
Allow your answers to flow from question to question in no particular order. Be willing to jot answers down regardless which question provokes an answer. Move from question to question for at least 10 – 15 minutes per play. Play as often as you like. Keep adding answers until you feel you have totally purged your answers. Be honest with yourself and true to the process. The Truth shall set you free!
What promises did I make to myself that I am committing to Do-Over by adjusting, letting go or surrendering?
What promises did I make to others that I am committing to Do-Over by renegotiating, counter-offering or revoking?
Which conversations am I committing to risking, taking on or completing as I Do-Over the ones that didn’t previously work?
Which relationship behaviors am I committing to integrate or change as I Do-Over the ones that haven’t previously worked?
What beliefs, grudges or judgments about a situation or person am I committing to clean up, let go of or surrender as I Do-Over?
Who or what am I committing to forgive or ask forgiveness of as I Do-Over those conversations, events or situations?
What daily practices am I committing to integrate or Do-Over?
What choices am I committing to integrate or Do-Over?
Which standards or boundaries am I going to update, modify, change or enforce as I Do-Over what isn’t working?
Add some of your own questions here.
At the beginning of each week, draw an Etch-A-Sketch on a clean sheet of paper for each day of the week.
On each page, write which actions, conversations or behaviors you will be taking on as you play that week.
Each item is worth 5 Do-Over points.
Declare how many Do-Over points you will make that week and write that # at the top of the page on the first day of each week. No cheating. Write that total # at the beginning of the week.
On the bottom of each page, write the day of the week and record your accomplished points at the end of that day.
At the end of the day, you have either accomplished a Do-Over or you have generated another Do-Over for another day. No right, wrong, good or bad. It either worked or didn’t work.
For the Do-Over's you did not accomplish, simply draw a line through them and add them to other days that week or put them back on the pages of appropriate questions to Do-Over on another day in the future.
Get a buddy or an accountability partner to support you in this process.
Rewards for Playing and re-engaging in your own life -
Your points represent your integrity and your willingness to take responsibility for what you say is important to you. As you practice taking actions in alignment with what you say is important to you, you will experience yourself moving forward with more confidence, courage, integrity, self-trust, peace, happiness, gratitude and joy.
As you become clean, current and complete with what has been out of alignment with your integrity and personal responsibility you will experience of yourself, your relationships and your life situations with flow and ease.
The Grand Prize is that the answers and results to the questions “Who Am I” and “What Do I Want” have been manifested and are in alignment. You truly know yourself and you have produced satisfaction, fulfillment and an enhanced quality of life.
As always, you are free to choose if the game of your life has meaning and if it is worth playing.
If you would like me to be your accountability partner, please contact me at 985-860-8861 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
_Did you know that your repressed, unresolved feelings and emotions can create illness and disease? If you have been conditioned and programmed to not show or express emotions, you might be creating potentially deadly health risks.
You have heard me say many times that everything is energy. In fact the Nov. 20th newsletter was all about noticing the different energy of your moods, relationships, situations and life in general. Thoughts, emotions and feelings are energy. While some of it can be hidden or denied to the outer world, you have no control of what havoc it is wreaking on the inner world. Unless of course you are willing to interrupt the silent killer that unexpressed emotions and feelings can be.
Did you know that you can interrupt that cycle if you are open and willing to address your feelings and emotions?
If you answer yes to any of the following questions, you might be at risk for mental or physical health dangers.
If your habit or pattern is to hold it all in, stuff, hide, squelch or silence what is bubbling inside, you may be adding layers to an already dangerous situation.
I urge you to do your own research on this topic. I have provided an article that I recently read that prompted me to create additional awareness to an all too common needless health and well-being issue.
Jed Shlackman, Miami Holistic Health Examiner writes,
A wide range of data on mind-body medicine research is helping us understand how thoughts and emotions generate specific patterns of physical illnesses. Disempowering beliefs and repressed emotions disrupt the systems of the body that maintain our well-being. This leads to illness.
Click on the link below to continue reading. Research links cancer with repressed, unresolved feelings and emotions Your partner in possibilities! Contact me at 985-860-8861 or email@example.com
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