If you have integrity, nothing else matters. If you don't have integrity, nothing else matters. -
by Denise Palmisano
My claim has always been that you have all you need to handle whatever comes up and to create a life you love. Who you are now, your life situations and who you can become are not predetermined, limited or fixed.
I invite you to put yourself in a similar situation as the children, teenagers and young adults getting ready to head back to the classroom. Ask yourself the same question, Who do you want to be when you grow up? That question can also be applied to those of us who are for the most part past the traditional classroom environments. Just because we are out of school, doesn't mean our learning has stopped or that our possibilities have ended.
When I ask the question, "Who do you want to be when you grow up"?, this truly is as simple as it gets.
Bottom line is, if your thoughts, words and actions are not in alignment with who you want to become or where you say you want to be, then, that is where you are out of integrity. That gap often has us experience our lives as though something is missing. We do not feel fulfilled, satisfied, alive, passionate or engaged in our own life.
To move forward and shift your current experience of yourself or your life, it will require you to acknowledge the gap and take responsibility or ownership for the thoughts, words and actions that will have you experience more of what you want. So the next question becomes, "Where am I out of integrity"? This can be an empowering question that allows intention, passion, rebirth, commitment, learning, possibilities and versatility to emerge. This is only the beginning. I will explore more about integrity in future newsletters, courses and workshops.
For now, I invite you to get excited as you continue to discover and reveal where you are out of alignment. Those are areas that you can do something about. When we stop looking for areas that we are out of alignment, it is easy to focus on what's wrong, blame others, avoid, entertain addictions and settle for an unexpressed and unlived life.
One of the primary intentions I took on as a coach was to be a partner with people as they define, claim and take action on what they say matters in their life. I honestly believe that when we step up and take responsibility for our own lives, the chaos and clutter in the external world will disappear. It seems like blaming, complaining and explaining has taken the place of living a life of integrity and personal responsibility. We have plenty enough to take care of in our own lives, we don't need to be pointing the finger at anyone else. It's not that stuff won't happen in your life, it is who do you become you when it does?
So if you are still asking the age old question "Who am I", look around in your life. The answer to that is clear. What do you see? How would you describe the kind of person that is living your life? If what you see is not what you want, then why settle for who you are now? Choose to become the person you want to be. Be willing to let go of who you are now for who you can become! It might be time for you to reclaim those parts of you that you have denied, hidden, pushed aside and judged.
I invite you to look around in your life for any area that is not in alignment with what you say is important to you. What are you doing about it? When your thoughts, words and actions are in alignment with what you say matters, you will no longer entertain questions, excuses, interpretations or beliefs that don't serve anything but to keep you stuck in a life of mediocrity and status quo.
Who you become as you move through life's joys, sufferings and challenges is where you get to meet yourself on a moment by moment basis. To authentically know yourself is to fully experience everything that enhances or limits your growth, capacity and evolvement. For it is only when you are willing to tell the truth and meet yourself in every possibility and every limitation that you will be set free to make choices that are authentic, empowering and fully expressed.
I invite you to really stop and answer the question, "Who do you want to be when you grow up"? I encourage you to revisit it as an ongoing check in to see if you are in alignment with who you want to become as you continue this journey we call life.
In my 20 + yrs. of personal transformational learning, client and workshop experience I have seen it time and time again. When you begin to make choices in alignment with what is important and meaningful to you, your life, current situations and the experience of yourself and your connection to it all will change.
I would love to hear how integrity and responsibility show up in your life. You can make a comment on this blog page or drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Contact me for a free consultation to explore the topic of integrity and responsibility in your life. This is a huge subject and this is only the tip of the iceberg.
YOU HAVE THE POWER to reinvent yourself moment by moment. ARE YOU READY to experience how good it could really be - TO BE YOU?
Minds are like parachutes they work best when open. ~ Lord Thomas Dewar
by Denise Palmisano
Think about the above quote. What possibilities show up for you when your mind is open? Can you feel the energy, excitement and passion that go along with a yearning for learning? When curiosity and wonder are present, your life and the world as you know it can transform.
I invite you to put down any beliefs that you SHOULD KNOW or that you ALREADY KNOW as we enter into this conversation. To learn anything, you must first be willing to admit or acknowledge that you don't know. The teacher can't start telling you what they know until you stop telling them what you know. It has been my experience that learning will be a constant and necessary competence to develop and nurture for the rest of one's life. I invite you to go willingly and choose to be a student.
In today's world, change has become a permanent feature in our lives. Everything as we know it could change in any moment. We cannot escape the necessity to continue to be in the world as students. Our survival depends on it. If you do not expose yourself to new learning, you are limited in your thoughts, words and actions. It is not likely you will find solutions to a problem from the same mindset that created the problem.
Your Next Step is a calling to be better equipped and prepared to navigate, innovate, accept and embrace your ongoing, natural, imposed and designed transformation, evolution and potential. Why wait around and let things happen to you? What would be available if you accepted that your Next Step is to become master of your own destiny as you create the experiences and outcomes that feed your heart, body, mind and soul? The time is now to create an intention and purpose filled life.
Learning is a total body commitment and experience. You don't really know until you can do what it is you have been studying or practicing. To know is to be able to demonstrate. This is one reason reading about something doesn't necessarily prepare you for the totality of what you will encounter once you are actually practicing the topic of your interest.
Think about when you learned to drive. No amount of reading the book of questions to take the test prepared you for what it was like once you got behind the wheel. You probably froze with opposing energies of fear and excitement at the same time.
A real life personal experience for me recently was learning how to download or rip CD's on my laptop and become competent at downloading, sorting and building playlists with music from itunes and my CD's. I can't tell you how long I have avoided learning that. I had all the usual excuses, no time, don't really need that, won't listen to it anyway, costly to buy music, etc. However, at the same time, by not learning how to do all of this I was was spending time and energy on the consequences of not knowing how to do it.
I was having to haul countless CD's and something to play them on to my workshops. I had outdated music. I was limited in choices of songs to play. Are you getting the picture. Bottom line is, I was spending more time, money and energy on trying not to learn than if I would have just accepted that it was part of the natural updating and preparation that goes with my life and my business. Thanks to me for being willing to ask my dear friend Yvette for support and her being willing to take time out of her schedule to teach me, I can now do everything I was afraid of with music.
The really cool part is we had so much fun. I have found that whether I am the student or the teacher an exchange happens that fuels both people. I can be just as passionate about being a student as being a teacher. I love to learn and I am always in a learning environment. I have mentors, coaches, friends and teachers that support me in my learning.
I am free because I am have chosen to remain conscious and not limit myself with what I already know to design and create my life. Most of you that know me know that I take risks and I trust that if there is something I need to know, I will learn it when I get to that point. Until then, I will not limit my choices or my life to the mediocrity and status quo of everything having to fit nice and neat into what I already know.
If you are ready to step out of what has become ho hum for you, you can begin by asking yourself what areas of your life are you currently experiencing disconnection in or less than optimal results? Are there new areas of learning that would enhance your capacity to experience more of what is important to you? It might be easier to start out seeing yourself on the other side of having learned a new skill, competence or body of information. The question to always keep in the background is what would new learning make available to me? How will my life be different if I choose to be an open and willing student?
I would love to hear what you are learning and what is available to you because of your willing to be a student in your own life. You can make a comment on this blog page. of my website by clicking here or drop me a line at email@example.com
Happy! In keeping with the theme of Independence Day, I invite you to continue to discover, reconnect to and integrate your freedom and independence as a woman.
It might be easy to lose sight of that with the current condition and demands of your life situations. Never before are we as women being called upon to demonstrate and integrate our energy, resources, time, skills, talents, emotional well-being, mental health, intellectual fortitude, physical strength and spiritual connection. This workshop is an Awakening to Your Authenticity, Wholeness and Potential.
Are you feeling a little used up and drained with the many roles in life you have taken on? Are you equipped to step into the demands of your family, workplace, church, social circles and community? Feeling like you need a break or a vacation? Are you experiencing disconnection from yourself and others?
Whether you need a break, want to get re-grounded in what is important and meaningful to you in your life or you want to learn to be better equipped to handle the change, transition and uncertainty in your life, the time is Now! It is time to put YOU and your attention to your needs and wants on your calendar! Give yourself the gift of being # 1 for 2 days of rejuvenation, learning and connection with other phenomenal women with the same concerns.
I have designed and facilitated a women's only workshop over the last year that has empowered and inspired women of all walks of life to reclaim their authenticity, wholeness and potential moment by moment. I am very excited about bringing this workshop to the weekend of July 31 & Aug 1.
We will have fun, rejuvenate and discover what it means to be Female & Fabulous in our own lives as we encounter and experience the world we now find ourselves in today. We will do this without losing sight of who we are and what is important to us. In fact the workshop is designed for you to leave with a clarity of purpose, a conscious intention and the capacity to create and experience a life you love.
We will also integrate the workbook/handbook that I have written to deepen the process, gain insight and claim our moments! You won't want to miss this innovative addition to this phenomenal workshop!!!
I encourage you to invite a friend or family member to share this experience and opportunity with you. Who in your life would benefit from a weekend to themselves to reconnect to their authenticity, wholeness and potential?
I invite you to read the write up on the course by clicking here for details, a recorded interview and testimonials. You can also add this course to your shopping cart at the end of that webpage.
Love & hugs,
by Denise Palmisano
Take a deep breath and allow your shoulders and jaw relax and soften. Allow your thoughts to be there without judgment as we explore the many layers of the phenomenon of gratitude. For the sake of this conversation, I invite you to call to mind a person, event or situation that you are grateful for in your life. Continue reading when you have done that. Allow the experience of gratitude to be in the background as we move on.
Gratitude emerges from heart intelligence. Gratitude has been labeled a feeling, a mood, an attitude, an experience, a recognition, a reflection and a mindset. I am claiming it is also an action and a connection to someone or something that stirs us on a heart level. When gratitude is allowed to emerge or is brought forth from the heart, it can be life sustaining and life changing. The conscious state of gratitude can heal, open possibilities, alter relationships, deepen connections, bring forth joy and happiness, expand interpretations or viewpoints and transform challenges.
Gratitude can exist whether you are alone, with another person or in a group. It can be for yourself, others, on a national or universal level. It can be a verbal or non-verbal, physical demonstration of appreciation. It could be saying thank you or performing an act of service in exchange for how you were supported, lifted or acknowledged. It could be a smile, a wave or a gentle nod. Some conscious or unconscious act that emerges from that inner knowing that your heart has been stirred. In that instant, you shifted because you became aware of someone or something that adds to the quality or experience of your life situations. Your life has been altered due to the recognition, connection, act, expression or experience of gratitude.
Gratitude is also an exchange. How do you receive other people's gratitude for you, your words, your actions? Do you honor or dishonor their sentiments? Do you dismiss or downplay what you are being acknowledged for or who you are being acknowledged by? What would be available to you if you were to truly allow yourself to receive other people's gratitude? This is a time to honor the contribution and value you are or have been in someone else's life. Allow yourself to receive their expression of gratitude without judgment. Breathe in the gift you are and the difference you make in this world. I say the world is a better place because you are in it. Claim this moment! Accept my gratitude for being in my life. From my heart to yours, thank you!
What stirs you to gratitude? Are there specific words, actions, events, occurrences or people that move you to soften or pause with a sense of being connected, loved, appreciated, cherished, accepted, trusted or blessed? Does gratitude show up as heart felt or do you simply demonstrate the automatic, obligatory actions that come from the head. What would be available to you, your connections with others and your overall experience of gratitude if you were to take this on as a stirring of heart intelligence and connection to the dynamic force gratitude can be in your life?
Imagine a snapshot of your life exactly as it is in this moment. Who are the people, what are the events, the words, the behaviors, the actions, your surroundings or experiences that bring forth gratitude? What creates a gentle smile, connection or thank you? What brings warmth to your heart, a nod of acknowledgment or a hug of appreciation? What or whom do you want to claim gratitude for in this moment?
I invite you to make a list of at least 30 people, events, situations, words, things or experiences that you are grateful for today. What personal qualities do you demonstrate that you are grateful for or that you have been acknowledged for recently? Really claim the peace, joy, happiness and contentment as you reflect on how your life is enriched because of all that you are and all that you have available to you.
The invitation is to become aware the many ways gratitude shows up in your life and the difference you make in the lives of others. The quality of the journey of your life will be forever enhanced when you allow your heart to experience the fullness and depth of gratitude in your day to day exchanges with others.
I would love to hear how gratitude shows up in your life. You can make a comment on this blog page f my website by clicking here or drop me a line at firstname.lastname@example.org
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