The Habit of Showing Up
Have you ever wondered what has you say yes then go out of your way to avoid following through on your commitment?
Have you ever had that maybe, sorta, kinda, sure would be nice if kind of commitment?
Have you ever felt like you were not ready, prepared, informed, or energetically available to follow through on your commitments?
Have you ever wondered why and how some people are more successful, happy, energetic, accomplished, confident, talented, wise, insightful, peaceful, fun loving, patient and giving than you are? If so, it doesn't mean they are better than you, it just might mean they go about their life and business in a different way. Want to learn the inside scoop?
Now is not the time to compare yourself to others. It is about focusing on you, what you said was important to you, what you have committed to and how you are going to follow through on your commitments to yourself and others.
Welcome to humanity! No one said moving closer to or accomplishing what you said you were committed to would be easy, comfortable, convenient or guaranteed. Making the commitment to yourself or someone else was the easy part.
Think of how many times you say YES during the day. Are you even aware that your actions may be implying commitment when you haven't actually spoken the words?
To truly be satisfied and successful in life, it requires an acute awareness to what you are saying yes to and how it impacts your other commitments. I am not saying it isn't all important. I am saying that being aware of your CAPACITY and WILLINGNESS to sort information prior to saying yes will better equip you to staying in alignment with your priorities.
Ultimately, this will minimize distractions, frustration, resentment, blaming, drama, being a victim and making yourself or others wrong for your current situations.
Sorting your CAPACITY and WILLINGNESS to SHOW UP!
Now that you have said or implied YES, what's next?
Just because you said yes, doesn't mean that it will happen. The gap between saying yes to anything in life requires follow through. What most people are not practiced at is following through on what they said yes to or what they said they were committed to.
This repeated cycle of incompletion, lack of follow up or follow through can erode your self-trust, self-esteem, confidence, energy, courage and so much more. It also impacts the willingness of others to either engage with you or trust you that you will or can do what you say you are committed to. Your public identity is at stake here. Have you heard the phrase, "Actions speak louder than words", this is an example of that.
Developing a habit of showing up will require you to slow down, evaluate, plan and execute some of the crucial steps in what it means and takes to truly SHOW UP in your life for yourself and others.
5 steps to creating a habit of SHOWING UP
1.) Evaluate, is this commitment truly in alignment with what is important to you? If not, say NO.
2.) What adjustments would you have to be willing to make to follow through on this commitment? Would you have to ask for support, set a boundary, learn a skill, block time, revoke another commitment etc.?
If you aren't willing to change anything it is not likely you will follow through or SHOW UP for the process. Save yourself the suffering and don't say yes.
3.) Take inventory of your availability energetically, physically, mentally, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and or financially. Do you have consistent practices in self-care that enhance your energy, focus, courage, productivity, belief in yourself and positive attitude?
4.) Create a plan that includes clear and specific action steps with completion dates on each step. Pursue clarity for how you will bring this promise or commitment to fruition. Don't leave it to chance. Write it down, track it, make adjustments, rinse and repeat!
5.) Enroll an accountability partner, coach, mentor, advisor for feedback and support along the way. Don't attempt this alone.
If you would like an expanded conversation about your specific situation, goal or plan, don't hesitate to contact me at 985-860-8861 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
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