Did you know your values might be sabotaging your dreams, goals and objectives?
If you answered yes to any of the following questions, you are probably unaware of the impact your values are having on your life.
You have probably heard in more ways than one that everything is energy. Are you aware that within the energy of values having a positive influence on your life, there is an opposing energy that suggests values can have a negative influence on your life. Without further examination or left unattended, we are likely to use our values as our evidence, excuse or justification that the choice we made was the only one we could make. I say you always have more than one choice and maybe you are not willing or open to explore the others. That is when it could be said you are righteous in your beliefs that your choices were limited. I say that belief is setting you up to sell out and move farther away from the value and the true direction it was meant to keep you on originally.
We are not always aware when we are selling-out to a value. Selling out is considered to be linked with short term gratification. The reward is temporary. Selling out is when you are more attached to an experience in the moment that you lose sight of how that decision is not in alignment with your long-term objectives, goals, dreams or vision.
We would like to think we are making logical choices free of emotion. This is a lie. All of your choices come with visible and invisible emotions. You only do what you do to either move toward and experience or away from an experience. That is what I mean when I say we sell out for experience. Our values are based on the experiences we think we will have by living a certain way.
Imagine your values are love, support, connection, integrity and generosity. Would you or would you not, love even when you have been hurt, support even at the risk of giving too much of yourself, put yourself in situations to belong or be a part of something to feel connected, judge others when they do not live up to your standards of integrity or give to the degree of over-extending your resources to experience giving? That is what I mean when I say sell-out.
Unless you get clear on the standard or degree to which you are willing to comply with that value, you will suffer. Knowing your line between what is enough and when your actions cross the line of effectiveness is your journey with values. Don't be so quick to defend them or make choices from them unless you have done your work in evaluating the risks and potential to sell-out.
When just left to chance, you are using qualities that were intended to be your road map to happiness, fulfillment and satisfaction and it ends up being your exit ramp to emptiness, chaos, resentment, anger, disappointment, defeat and victimhood.
I claim that the degree to which you are righteous about your values without examining both sides of how they are impacting your choices and ultimately your results is the same degree that your values are limiting you. Most of what we have done is created an illusion of clarity and direction and have lost sight of a bigger picture perspective.
Tell me what you value and I will tell you what you will sell-out for in your life and relationships!
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The season of spring is aligned with new growth, vibrant colors, rebirth, sunshine, rejuvenation, a sign of better times. I invite you to take advantage of the natural energy and opportunity available to you to also bloom where you are planted. That means you are here, on this day, in several specific roles, recognizing the current level of satisfaction in your life situations. Good job!
Imagine you are standing in your garden. This garden is a manifestation of all of the seeds you have planted over your lifetime. Those seeds were made up of the thoughts, words and actions that you have used to get you where you are today.
Look around each area of life, have those seeds bloomed into the results you intended? Are you seeing some things you would like to be different?
Your garden, just like your life requires attention. Where or how would you like to bloom, grow or create a new result?
In some cases, it might be time to;
You see, it's not about looking outside of yourself to find value, worth, contribution, expression, courage, meaning and magnificence. It is looking inside and sorting through everything that is limiting you from being the person you authentically know yourself to be.
Looking forward to being your gardening partner in possibilities! Contact me for a free strategy session to get started today!
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