In the Meantime
Just like the butterfly, we too feel the struggle of moving through our life situations. In the moment, we don't appreciate what is happening nor can we see the larger viewpoint. Our pre-programmed beliefs, fears and expectations are clouding and limiting our capacity to step forward. We find ourselves frozen, stuck or shrinking to a situation.
My invitation is to find value and meaning "In the Meantime" between Point A being where you currently find yourself and Point B being on the other side of the situation. It looks similar to this.
Point A - [ IN THE MEANTIME] - Point B
Every challenge can seem large when we don't trust ourselves to figure it out or to have the necessary skills or resources to make it to the other side. It is common to use the filter of lack or of what's missing when confronted with a situation. The filter of lack will have us feel frustrated, resentful, fearful and angry. Those emotions have us do things like blame others, complain, react, retreat, give up or settle. It is in those times that the situation appears larger because our focus, energy and attention is on what we can't do or what we don't have.
That mindset and those emotions probably won't get you to where you want to go. I am offering that in between where you find yourself, point A, and where you want to end up, point B is where your possibilities, learning, growth and freedom exist. You won't get to the other side being truly free unless you repeatedly interrupt what has this situation or any situation appear larger than you.
"The world breaks everyone, and afterward, some are strong at the broken places." - Ernest Hemingway
In the Meantime is the time to wake up and bring forth your best self to assess the situation and plan what's next. It is a time to shift and expand your mindset to taking responsibility instead of backing down. It is a time to bring forth clarity, confidence and courage to take the first steps in moving through the situation. It is a time where you call upon your best self to inform and guide you on the journey ahead of you.
When you are doing this, you are expanding, growing, evolving, overcoming the smallness and limitation that once had you feeling unequipped to move forward. You are BECOMING more and more of who is authentically and naturally equipped to handle anything that comes up.
For steps in calling forth your best self, visit a previous newsletter, 66 Days to Build a Habit
In the Meantime is the time to tell the truth, accept the situation regardless if you agree with it or like it and forgive yourself for all the ways you brought on suffering to yourself or others. Just like the caterpillar, that was part of your struggle to the other side. We must leave the safety of the cocoon if we ever hope to grow and expand beyond our perceived limitations.
To be your best self, your objective is not to remain comfortable. That is a limitation that will hold you back repeatedly. The objective is to consistently expand to the situation and be grateful for the learning opportunity. That journey is what has you become more and more of the greatness, brilliance and magnificence that is waiting to be expressed. Be patient with your process and be willing to experience freedom from your current limitations.
In the Meantime is where you get to experience you and expand the relationship with yourself and your life situations.
Looking forward to being your partner in possibilities! If you are ready to step forth into FREEDOM, contact me for a free strategy session to get started today!
You are destined for greatness. You came into this world equipped with the spirit of innocence and wonder. Everything around you was a discovery. You approached all that was new with a willingness and eagerness to learn. Being a student of life and of yourself had you experience miracles all around you.
Think of a small child laughing, playing, using their imagination free of limitation and boundaries. That energy melts you and has you want to play along and take in the mystery and majesty of what it means to really be FREE! In an instant your worries slip away and you are transformed. You find yourself saying and doing things that meet or match the lead of the child. What happened?
Regardless of what or who gave you permission to bring forth that joy and freedom, remember that you stepped into the moment. If only for a moment, you set yourself free. Nothing else in your life changed. You still had the same job, relationships, bank account, friends, hobbies, etc. once the moment had passed. You can do this!
That is how you will continue to be able to expect miracles. You allow them to come forth. With arms wide open, invite, embrace and expect miracles moment by moment, each and every day!
Do that right now. Stand up, open your arms wide, chest expanded and say;
Remember, this is not about you against the world, it is you in the world with full permission and responsibility to create a life you love. It is you being authentically you in the midst of situations with a full range of choices, emotions, thoughts, words and actions with no need to shrink, hide, pretend or conceal.
You must remember that you were once that child. Be willing to step forth into the moments given you with curiosity, courage, confidence, clarity and choices that bring forth freedom and celebration.
Rather than look back with regret if you are not currently experiencing that same freedom, take some time to remember who you once were and what excited, inspired, motivated and moved you? Keep that visual in front of you at all times. Let that guide, encourage and support you to align your thoughts, words and actions.
Forgive and move beyond any programming and training from your parents, family, teachers, environments, friends, society, religions and cultures that stripped away your freedom. Let go of the need to settle for what other people need, want and expect of you. Your survival, sense of belonging, acceptance and love no longer depend on gaining the permission and approval of others.
Can you see that all that has happened is that you forgot who you were and what had you experience life as exciting and delicious when you were living in the spirit of innocence and wonder? Maybe you just learned to stop trusting yourself to expect and bring forth miracles.
Just like a sculptor chips away all that is not the magnificence of the finished product, you too can become the masterpiece that was once hidden and buried inside of everything that has attempted to shape and mold you. You are a miracle and there are many miracles waiting and wanting to happen in your life. Allow them in.
Trusting yourself to bring forth clarity for all that is real, authentic, pure, natural, sincere and true for you will have you experience freedom and living fully expressed.
Don't forget that children also celebrate. They do it with smiles, laughter, clapping, dancing, running, hugging, wide eyes and naps. Be willing to celebrate all that you notice and all that you bring forth.
How will you invite in, bring forth and celebrate the miracles wanting to happen in your life?
Looking forward to being your partner in possibilities! If you are ready to step forth to expect and create miracles in your life, contact me for a free strategy session to get started today!
Unhitching My Cart
Have you ever had the feeling that you just know when it is time to throw in the towel, change directions or start something new? Have you ever been at that fork in the road that is calling loudly for your attention? It can often be a place of great suffering. What I can tell you is most of the suffering is about not choosing what to hitch your cart to.
Being on the fence about a decision invites the choir in your head to serve up all sorts of reasons, emotions, excuses and justifications to hang on for just a little longer. All the while, you know you are fooling yourself and you are running out of places to hide and you no longer have the energy to keep up the facade. Remember, whatever you focus on expands.
Imagine you have a cart and it is filled with gifts, talents, ideas, tools, resources, wisdom, education, etc. It's an amazing cart and deep inside you also know it has extreme value and possibilities. In the beginning, you are very excited to share what is in your cart so you set out offering who you are and the contents of your cart to others. You do this in the form of roles and responsibilities within your jobs, careers, relationships, friendships, community involvement, social awareness, family, religions, finances, education, etc. There are many layers of offers and promises to yourself and others.
Over time, the cart gets heavy and what you notice is along the way, you have taken on other people's stuff and the cart is too much for you to handle effectively. In fact there is so much extra stuff, you are not sure what is yours and what is for others. Rather than lighten the load, you look outside of yourself and decide to hitch your cart to someone else to help you pull your cart. Before you know it, the cart is heavy again and the cycle continues.
With great deliberation you finally see the problem is two fold. One, your cart is no longer authentically yours, the stuff you have taken on has distorted the value of your cart and your ability to keep your promises. On top of that you notice that you have possibly hitched your cart to something or someone that isn't going in the direction you wanted to go. You are getting farther away from your goals and dreams. The promises made to you are becoming empty and distorted. You find yourself blaming and finding fault with many situations or people. So, now what?
This the intersection between obstacle and opportunity. It is a new moment in time. You can interrupt the pattern, quit settling for what you know isn't working and step forth into new possibilities even at the risk of not knowing the outcome.
It takes clarity, courage and confidence to reclaim your destiny. This moment of setting yourself free of whatever or whomever is holding you back is pivotal in becoming the co-creator of your destiny. It all begins with you and a willingness to create and live a life you love.
Here is what's next.
If you have ever gotten weary, unfocused, unclear and uninspired with what is in your cart and who or what you have attached it to, that is your sign. If your current thoughts, words and actions are having you suffer a loss of yourself, your identity, your integrity and the quality of your life, then it is time to unhitch. From what you might ask?
If you need support in identifying what is in your cart or what to hitch your cart to, contact me to partner with you on this journey.
Looking forward to being your partner in possibilities!
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