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When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another." ~ Helen Keller It is a true miracle when a man finally sees himself as his only opposition. ~ Vernon Howard.
That system is momentum motivation. Action brings about clarity, focus, direction and results. Nothing happens until something moves. ACTION changes our perspective and opens possibilities. Being momentum motivated is being open to learning, living with purpose and intention as you take care of business and move forward. You are likely to experience high energy, clarity, focus, results, effectiveness and a sense of being complete. You are taking responsibility and are living in integrity. Misery motivation is when you are feeling stuck, not focused or not clear, waiting until you feel bad enough about yourself or about the situation to do something different or you are waiting for things to change on their own or you are waiting for someone else to do it for you. If your motivation is misery then that is self-limiting and you have put your life on hold. You will continue to repeat thoughts, words or actions that are not working as you remain in the cycle of three steps forward, two steps back, feeling stuck, limited, helpless or hopeless. Some people would rather suffer the misery they perceive and have practiced rather than face their fears or ask for support to expand outside of their comfort zone. The problem is, staying in a comfort zone isn't always comfortable, it is just the misery we know. This only allows for a limited range of thought, actions, conversations and results. Tell tale signs that you are motivated by misery are low energy, shame, guilt, limiting beliefs, ineffective moods, attachments, addictions, intrigue, drama and suffering, etc. If you were to tell the truth, what motivates you, misery or momentum? Is it working? My claim it that it is possible to unlearn your old programming of being misery motivated to becoming momentum motivated. If you are open to taking this on, you have the potential to experience more miracles than you ever thought possible. I am your partner in possibilities. Contact me by phone, 985-860-8861 or email, denise@empoweringpotential.com
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"Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart. Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens."- Carl Jung Choices are natural and necessary. Your choices can be empowering or disempowering, expansive or limiting, intentional or automatic, etc. It is not likely you will escape this world without making choices. Even not choosing is choosing. Whether or not you suffer in the process is another choice. Consider the following; when making choices or following through with the choices you have already made, note if any of the following applies.
How would your life be different if you could diminish or eliminate the suffering when it comes to the before or after of choice making? When you come to a fork in the road in making choices, here are a few steps to practice. Step 1: Recall the situation & make a mental note of what you hear yourself saying about it. The filters or lens through which you see the situation will shout good, bad, right, wrong, etc. This is your personal interpretation. Not everyone thinks, feels or believes the same way you do. (I know that's hard to believe but go with me on this one). The events, situations, relationships and circumstances you find yourself in are constantly being interpreted or judged through the filters of your moods, beliefs, past programming, conditioning, attachments, ego ideals, etc. Maybe, just maybe, there is another way of looking at the situation without judging yourself or others. Can you see and agree that what you tell yourself about the situation will either limit or enhance your possibilities? Step 2: Letting Go & Expanding Your Possibilities Letting go is being willing to surrender your limiting beliefs, words and actions. Letting go includes all those things that get you the temporary experience of attention, approval, fitting in, being needed, avoiding conflict, being rescued, etc. Your possibilities expand if your happiness, joy, fulfillment and peace are not dependent on what other people want, need, approve of or can give you. If you forget to take care of yourself in the midst of the choosing, there too you will suffer. Another aspect that generates suffering is if you are taking too much responsibility for others and enabling the situation to stay the same. That would include, needing to be in control, the white knight syndrome, the rescuer, not holding others accountable, the person that takes away all the pain or suffering for others. That would mean you are devoting your time, energy and resources to people, events and goals that reinforce that what you want and need can only be obtained outside of you. You may have become dependent or even addicted to other people or situations lining up in a certain way for you to be okay. That is not a peaceful or permanent place. (We'll have another lesson on crazy-making). Step 3: Trust that you have all you need You have every quality that could possibly be needed to handle whatever comes up. Staying tuned in and focused on your internal GPS for your information while making choices is the key. I am suggesting that making choices become easier when you are willing to listen beneath the judgments, advice, old habits and temporary gratification of what is calling for your attention. You are not alone. We have been conditioned to put ourselves last, not ask or even identify what we want, follow the herd, play small, hide our brilliance and not buck the system. Most people were not taught how to tap into their internal GPS much less know or trust which path to choose. Your past does not have to define your future. Once you can hear what you want, the how to get what you want will be shown to you. It is a multi-step process. Take it one step at a time. You do not need to know how you are going to do something before you choose what you are going to do. That will only create more confusion and add additional stress. From that perspective, choices become easier when you take responsibility for what you want even if it means disappointment or disapproval from others. Eckhart Tolle in The Power of Now reminds us that when we have a problem we have three choices - leave the situation, change the situation or accept it completely. Step 4: Building Momentum Taking small and consistent actions will create and enhance your energy, focus, clarity and forward motion. Ask yourself, "Will this choice bring me contentment? Long - term fulfillment? Satisfaction? Peace? Joy? Energy? Integrity? Creativity? Inspiration? Motivation"? Tell the Truth! Or, will it bring me more of what I already have, what I don't want or what I will regret? Am I choosing what I want or what others would want for me? When you are faced with that fork in the road, look to the inside for your answers. Your internal GPS is your friend. If not NOW, WHEN will you awaken to what is wanting to happen in your life? I am your partner in possibilities. Contact me by phone, 985-860-8861 or email, denise@empoweringpotential.com Hope the entry into the new year is being met with energy, optimism and opportunity. If that is not your experience, breathe, you are not alone. It is not uncommon to experience a low, a sense of confusion or lack of clarity at the beginning of a new year. So many choices! Weeks prior to the new year, you were swept along in the hustle and bustle of planning, shopping, parties, vacationing, visiting, time off from work, over eating, indulging at every angle, etc. It is easy to get caught up in the myriad of activity whether it be of a social, religious or family nature. For some of us, it is one of the few times during the year that we relax, give ourselves permission to not be so structured and on task, have a little fun or take a little time off of work. Now that it is all over, you are being called to snap out of it and adjust your thoughts, plans, actions, energy and focus to what's next. Not an easy task to switch gears even for a very practiced person. Instead of resisting the fact that the holidays can knock us off center or focus or bring out our desire to play or connect with people, how can you use where you are to truly design more of what you want in life. Maybe a little taste of fun, connection or relaxation throughout the year would really make your heart sing. Use the information wisely. You might want to add a little more of that to your 2012 plans. In other words, what ever you did for the last several weeks doesn't have to mean anything negative, permanent or personal. Surrender and choose peace, acceptance and compassion for the past and for being human. We are social beings. We were designed to live and thrive in communities. The holidays seem to bring that out in us even if at other times of the year we are perfectly okay spending time alone or not being so involved. So what if your resistance to what you originally intended for the new year is more about your inner knowing that what you are focusing on is not authentic. What if your lack of energy, clarity, focus or direction is telling you that where you were heading wasn't going to fulfill or satisfy you! How can you use your current reality and what you are feeling to dig a little deeper to get to what will really make 2012 the Best Year of Your Life. It's not too late to bring in the new year and all that you visioned it could be! Having a plan to get your thoughts, words and actions in alignment will support the necessary momentum needed to move forward in your chosen endeavors. I suggest you let go of any Holiday Hangovers of the addictions you indulged in or Resolution Remorse from not being 100% on task and start anew! Here are a few tips.
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