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"Crawl before you walk" is simple to say yet not easy for most of us to do. We are programmed to get there, be done and look for what's next. We don't have time to crawl. Maybe it's really that we don't make or take time to crawl. We think we will get left behind or miss something. We believe we should already know. We are trying to keep up with everyone else and we are losing ourselves. It is easy to get caught up in being busy without clarity or focus on what really matters.
We live in a fast paced society with countless obligations, goals, deadlines, schedules and appointments. That doesn't allow for the time, patience and practice to observe what is working and what is not working. We continue to do what does not work even faster and more of it. We buy the latest and greatest technology, tools, devices, communication and inventions known to man to support our empty quest for an experience of a fulfilled and purposeful life. STOP IT!!! You can not get too much of what you do not need. It will always feel like "NOT ENOUGH". Even the great golfer, Jack Nicklaus took time to tear his game apart and go back to basics when he assessed that his game had gone bad. He would look for his hidden weaknesses and behavior patterns that were limiting his performance. He did this to refine and rebuild his game. That same method can be applied to every area of life. Just like Jack, if you are feeling like your "game of life" is not getting you what you want, it might be time to go back to basics and revisit your values, standards, boundaries, beliefs, practices and behaviors. When you are willing to open yourself up to the wisdom in life's lessons, you will be amazed at the quality of your life. Things are not always as they seem. They are only what you believe them to be. My invitation is to go back to basics and practice being in your life with intention and purpose. You will be amazed at what you will discover and experience. Contact me to explore what might be next for you on your journey towards a more peaceful today and a much brighter tomorrow!
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I know the all familiar place of doing my life according to what everyone else wants, needs or expects from me. Been there, done that got the t-shirt. Every now and then I become aware of ways that my programming continues to tug at me to go back to that as a way of life.
Hence, I have designed a career that requires me to stay awake. I do that by surrounding myself with coaches, mentors, people, friends, learning opportunities, goals and actions that provide a structure that supports and holds me accountable for "becoming" the person I say I want to be. Become - verb To enter or assume a certain state or condition To undergo a change or development To come into existence To enhance the appearance of Who have you become? If you don't change anything, who will you become in 5, 10 or 15 yrs? What's going on behind the scenes that you present to the world? Are you struggling to keep up the front? Have you become resentful and angry that you are not doing what is really important to you? Have you become someone that blames others for the conditions of your life? What is the "Current Reality" of your life and are you ready to become the person that is authentically you? Are your New Year's Resolutions just more of the movie set? Do you even know what is important to you in a deeper sense of that word? I'm talking about that part in you that has a desire and a longing to become a fuller expression, contribution or particpant other than what you are currently settling for in your life. What person, conditions or limitations are you waiting to be different for you to become the person you want to be? This isn't a dress rehearsal. If you are one of those people putting on the facade of a full, rich, happy life do yourself and everyone else in it a favor. STOP IT!!! Be real. You will be amazed what can happen if you accept and step into what is wanting to happen. Your natural evolution is calling for you to tear down the movie set. My invitation is to be authentic as you recommit to creating a life you love. Contact me to explore what might be next for you on your journey towards a more peaceful today and a much brighter tomorrow! What in the world does that mean you might ask?
Imagine getting out of the shower, clean, refreshed, relaxed. Now you are ready to get dressed. You look in the closet for what to put on and you have all sorts of choices. You might check the weather, your mood or your calendar to see what is adequate or appropriate for the day. You are constantly making choices. In the moment, what you chose made sense to you even if you didn't like it or would rather have had another option. Life is that that way also. Even though we have lots of choices and we make the one that makes sense at the time, we often don't like it or we are not at peace with it. I call that being incomplete. We are incomplete for many reasons. Maybe we didn't really want to choose or we are resentful because we don't assess we have different choices available to us or we are angry because we can't seem to make choices that get us where we want to go or that we can't seem to make choices that get us what others already have. Bottom line is, you made the choice you made and that created suffering. What got in the way of you making a choice that was in alignment with what you really wanted? What choice could you have made that would have left you feeling good about yourself and complete without suffering in that situation? Often it is because of the surface or shallow places we go to for our information in making choices. We often make choices out of an automatic need to be somewhere else. We try to rip ourselves out of our experience or our emotions. I am going to claim that our choices are not authentic. They are not coming from a clean, current or complete place. Ask yourself these questions. Have you come clean and confronted what information you are really making your choices from? Have you updated what is important to you so you can make choices in alignment with that? Declaring what we want is not enough! It takes action that is in alignment with was is true, clean and current moment by moment even if we experience being uncomfortable, uneasy, out of control, inconvenienced, or limited in some way, etc. When we make a choice that was rational at the time yet out of alignment with what is authentic, what soon follows is the very thing we were trying to avoid which was feeling uncomfortable, uneasy, out of control, inconvenienced, or limited in some way. We are often driven to make choices that don't upset anyone, that have us fit in, that have us be acceptable to others, that have us be loved or that have us be approved of by the people in our lives. When we choose to live our lives according to the standards and preferences of others, we lose ourselves. When we make choices that separate and disconnect us from our authentic self, we suffer and feel incomplete. We bring that incompletion into our conversations, actions, relationships, work places, families, social settings, etc. We experience something missing in our lives. That is probably accurate. You are missing! The suffering we experience is on the inside. The external situation is not the issue as much as we would like to blame it for our suffering. I focus my coaching and teaching on the inside out approach. It is the internal layers of clothing that we buy into day to day that creates our suffering. The internal layers include our negative self talk, our ineffective moods, our self-perception, our beliefs, only seeing our choices as the habits we already have or dependent on the approval of others, our attachments or our desires to name a few. So even though we can get clean, refreshed and relaxed on the outside after our shower, we don't take steps to stay clean on the inside. We present a mask to the world and right below the layers of clean clothing are layers of stuff that we are covering up. Your life and the circumstances you find yourself in today are a result of the outer choices you made from an internal stream of unprocessed, unconscious and under developed series of programming and stuff you are covering up, hiding or pretending about. It is time to take responsibility for your choices and your life! Maybe there are a few layers of your internal structure that can be updated, cleaned, brought up to current and complete for the world you live in today. Is it time to reclaim a total and true cleansing of all that is getting in the way of you making choices in alignment with creating and living a life you love? The point is, it's not that the old programming won't come up it is, what do I do about it when it does? Here are a few steps to support you in becoming clean, current and complete. Clean - Choose to become self-aware. It is time to bust yourself on the internal limiting structures calling for your attention. Awareness is the first step in personal growth, transition, change and spiritual evolution. Current - Speak the truth. Let the people in your life know what you are up to. Even if you have to bust yourself for wanting to be right, being attached to an outcome or that you need support in some way. Stop all the mind games and self-sabotage. You are not alone! EVER! Complete - What action or conversation will allow you to difuse, eliminate or diminish the suffering and incompletions? The TRUTH will set you free. What have you been putting on hold? Choosing a life of being clean, current and complete will end some of the suffering and open possibilities in your life and in your relationships. Contact me to explore what might be next for you on your journey towards a more peaceful today and a much brighter tomorrow! |
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