Nature's majesty has already begun working its magic on the plants, trees, flowers, colors and energy coming alive. It is a time for budding colors, new growth and new found love. Whether you are in a primary, intimate relationship or not there comes a time when you must ask, "Are you thriving or merely surviving"? Don't take your answer lightly. If you are thriving, congratulations! If you are merely surviving, read on.
It is possible to discover for the first time or rediscover your True Love in the person you are currently committed to. This is not a phenomenon for only single people, most relationships have periods of struggle, challenge or suffering. Don't go down the path of settling in your primary, intimate relationship.
You were not designed to be alone or to feel as though you are alone. It is time to learn the art and skill of Empowering True Love once and for all! It's a journey you will never forget.
Please join me and Carolee Laffoon for the Empowering True Love workshop. Click here http://empoweringtruelove.eventbrite.com or scroll down to see details below.
Carolee and I are looking forward to engaging in rich, juicy and eye opening conversations. You won't want to miss it.
 I hope you well and and still excited about the amazing results that are available to you in 2013. Whether the changes are designed or imposed, you can seize the opportunity!
I am inviting you to not only see opportunity in every situation or relationship but to seize the opportunities. Nothing happens until something moves! You are the author, editor and publisher of your life story!
Here is a tool that will show you how to make 2013 one of the BEST YEARS OF YOUR LIFE! You can apply this to any area of life.
From Here to There:
Identify a situation, relationship or event that is calling for your attention. In other words, where are you feeling a change is either necessary or that a change will be imposed on you by someone else in the near future.
Write down the facts as it relates to getting a snapshot of the current condition of the situation. Do not add judgment or story to it. I will use a common issue as an example. What you put into the exercise will be what you get out of it. This is your life! Take it serious.
Current weight: 170
Current height: 5'6"
Any Health issues: (diabetes, high blood pressure, fatigue, high cholesterol)
BMI - (body mass index in this case is 27 - which is overweight) click here for a calculator
Eating habits: (fast food, sugar drinks and snacks, drink alcohol, home cooking, etc.)
Level of activity: (inactive, walk maybe once a week)
Sleep habits/patterns: 5 hours a night
Can you see the potential condition of this person 3-5 yrs down the road if he/she keeps doing the same things? Likewise, where will you be in 3 -5 years if you keep doing the same things in the area of life you wrote down?
Now ask yourself, What would you like to be different?
Desired weight: 150
Health issues: none
BMI - (body mass index in this case is 25 - which is healthy) click here for a calculator
Eating habits: plan that is both healthy and sustainable
Level of activity: active
Sleep habits/patterns: 7 -8 hours a night
Now write down all the action items it would take to go from where you are to where you say you want to be that are within your control.
You just wrote out your plan for changing that aspect of your life.
Now, write dates by when you will take the specific actions that will move you forward in this area of life.
How will your life be different, enhanced or expanded by applying this tool?
How will that make you feel?
Is that experience one that would motivate or inspire you to take ACTION to make the necessary shifts, changes or transitions?
If yes, then it is time to put your plan into ACTION to create your ideal outcome.
If not, then notice the resistance to letting go of your old habits and perceived limitations. I invite you to quit fighting for and defending your limitations and not only SEE opportunities in creating more of what you want but to actually SEIZE opportunities that are right here, right now. Don't put your life on hold any longer.
Follow the links on this newsletter to see how we might partner in moving through what's next for you.
 You have just been granted 3 wishes. What are they?
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The universe rewards action! Knowing what you want is crucial in any situation. Once you know what you want, the "how to" unfolds.
Most people have forgotten how to dream, imagine and wonder in any direction that sets them apart from what they already know. For the most part, we are not actively taught, trained or programmed to discover or fully know what we want. We have gotten comfortable and complacent in wanting it fast and easy. The world is at our fingertips yet we settle for mediocrity. We live the illusion that we are connected and live in a big world yet when we get honest, we are far from living the life we really want.
We have been led to believe that it isn't okay to step outside of what others want or need from us. We get sucked into the illusion that will get our turn once all those situations calling for our attention are handled. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Your life is on hold and you are no longer feeling the passion, fulfillment or wonder in your life. You are shrinking to fit someone else's ideal of what they need you to be for them to be okay. Question is, ARE YOU OKAY?
I am inviting you to spend some time with your Magic Genie. You are who you are, with your own longings, desires, dreams and goals. Don't shrink to fit someone else's mold. You are not them. You are perfectly you.
It is time to let yourself out of the bottle and become the person you want to be. Who is that? Who do you want to experience yourself becoming? What belief, story or excuse keeps your life on hold? Are you ready to reclaim the abundance waiting for you?
Let's partner to make those dreams come true!
There is still time to have 2012 be remembered as one of the Best Years of Your Life! That's right, regardless of the situation or event, what you choose each day will either contribute to or diminish how things turn out for you. How will you remember 2012?
Follow the links on this newsletter to see how we might partner in moving through what's next. What outcome or experience would be so inspiring or motivating that you would be willing to take that next step to THRIVE instead of merely SURVIVE?
I would love to partner with you to co-reate the Integrity Anchors that will have you experience "A LIFE YOU LOVE".
Contact me at 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com
We've all felt that magic. That moment in time when you just know you have to go for it! When the talking and thinking about it isn't satisfying you any longer. You get that feeling, that stirring, that longing to make it happen!
What is wanting to happen?
I am inviting you to spend some time clarifying your POINT OF IMPACT. That being the intersection of the awareness that a particular area of life is not quite satisfying, or maybe not working at all and the determination to no longer settle for feeling less than fully alive, engaged or expressed.
How much energy is being drained from the quality of your life by putting what's important on hold?
Energy drains show up externally - as incomplete projects, broken promises, clothes that don't fit, messy closets or work space, clutter of any sort, taking too much responsibility for others, etc.
Energy drains show up internally - as old grudges, unhealed traumas, resentments, unexpressed boundaries, unspoken requests or complaints, non-forgiveness, non-acceptance, etc.
Everything that drains your energy is robbing you of your focus, clarity, creativity, decision making capacity and lots more. These are the areas that you are out of integrity. What you say and what you do are at odds. This is when your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-trust and self-love, are diminished.
What would be so inspiring or motivating that you would be willing to take that next step to THRIVE instead of merely SURVIVE?
I would love to partner with you to co-reate the Integrity Anchors that will have you experience "A LIFE YOU LOVE".
Contact me at 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com
Addictions - being abnormally tolerant to and dependent on something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming - has the potential to limit the capacity to take responsibility for your life
There is a natural tendency to deny or avoid the areas we struggle. Often we'll overcompensate for an area that we don't feel good about by investing our time and energy somewhere else. It is possible that addictions get formed here as an expression of I don't know what else to do about that but I bet I can find fulfillment somewhere else. Even if we know that the experience or the fulfillment we get from the addiction will be temporary. Addictions are empty and temporary because they are only a substitute for what you are not taking responsibility for long term. Too much of what you don't need won't satisfy you nor will it address the concern at hand.
If you truly want to thrive in all areas, you must be willing to address and handle something you've most been avoiding.
Integrity Anchors -Thoughts, words and actions that are in alignment with creating and living a life that is fulfilling, engaging and satisfying. You are taking responsibility for your life and your life situations.
Integrity anchors are consistent actions over time that keep a desired result or experience in place and available. They are any practice or regular action that you set up as a structure to keep you in the presence of what's most important to you. Creating and using these integrity anchors will keep you aligned with excellence and ensure that you get to where you want to go. By using them to support your commitment to living at your best, you'll also find that you naturally inspire excellence and greatness in those around you. And what could be better than living an excellent, fulfilled and inspiring life with those you most love?
I would love to partner with you to create the Integrity Anchors that will have you experience "A LIFE YOU LOVE".
Contact me at 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com
Giving enhances your relationship with yourself and others. You get to choose how much is "enough". Your thoughts, words and actions do not violate or sabotage the self. There is an internal knowing that you have value and worth. You are whole. You have all that you need to handle whatever comes up. Giving is the space of self-trust, wholeness, self-confidence, self-love, self-acceptance and self-esteem.
Emptying depletes and diminishes your relationship with yourself and others. This is when you are taking too much responsibility for others and or not enough responsibility for yourself. This is the world of expectations, shoulds, people pleasing, trying to fit in, needing to be liked or acknowledged, trying to avoid conflict, the need for approval, love, acceptance, attention or permission. Looking for the outer world to validate or give you value and worth. This is the level of no choice & powerlessness.
What patterns and themes are you noticing? What is your biggest obstacle? What are the beliefs that hold it in place? What would you have to be willing to let go of or surrender to have a different outcome? Are you committed to make that change? When?
If you are finding yourself emptying instead of giving in your relationships, you might want to consider attending the Ultimate Relationships Boot Camp that will be held Aug. 25 & 26 in Iowa.
Click here for more information. This is urgent, there are only a few seats left for this amazing opportunity!
Contact me at 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com to partner with you in co-creating your guided action plan towards Living Fully Expressed!
 At one time or another, we have probably all had the feeling that we were in the wrong place at the wrong time. Has that ever happened to you?
No matter how hard you tried it often seems as though your efforts don't quite put you where you need or want to be. If this experience is repeated often enough, you might begin to settle into limiting beliefs such as "nothing I do is good enough", "good things don't happen to me" or "I'm such a failure".
As you might suspect, if we listen to those beliefs long enough you might just begin to believe them. That's what I call focusing on what you don't want. Or, being somewhere other than where you say you want to be. Remember, your thoughts, create your feelings. Your feelings create your actions and your actions create your results.
You don't have to abandon what you wanted. Your limiting beliefs are readily available to give you just the excuse or justification you need to stay stuck, blame your external reality or keep you comfortable. That pay off is small in comparison to the costs of repeatedly not following through on what is important to you. Your self-esteem, self-confidence, self-trust, energy and vitality are diminished every time you don't follow through on your promises to yourself and others.
What you focus on will be magnified. I suggest you focus on what you want, not what you don't want.
To course correct and get back in alignment with what you want, it will require you to pause and observe what worked and what didn't work. Just because you have a thought doesn't mean you have to follow it. Remember, the ego is a trickster and it wants to keep you playing safe and small. Is that what you really want?
Don't judge your mental, emotional or physical efforts as good, bad, right or wrong. They either work or don't work. You can use the information in your inquiry to get back on track with moving towards your goal, dream or desire.
Don't follow the map to the airport when your ship of dreams, goals and desires are at the harbor.
Here are 3 questions to keep you on track.
1.) What do I want?
2.) What qualities (i.e. courage, acceptance, integrity, forgiveness, etc.) do I need to integrate, learn or practice to accomplish my goal, dream or desire?
3.) When am I going to start?
Remember, you have all you need for whatever comes up!
Contact me at 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com to partner with you in co-creating your guided action plan towards Living Fully Expressed!
 "Life brings simple pleasures to us every day. It is up to us to make them wonderful memories." ~ Cathy Allen
I believe that it's true. Everyday there is an opportunity to stop and acknowledge how many wonderful things are present in our lives at all times. It is so automatic to look outside of that simple fact and focus on the things that aren't going the way we were attached to them happening.
Practicing stepping back and letting go of the attachment of what you thought it was supposed to look like will allow you to experience simple pleasures. If you are willing to accept that it is impossible to control, fix or manipulate the universe or the happenings within it you are more likely to be able to choose peace and possibilities in the midst of your life situations. That requires intention and practice.
I have taught hundreds of people to learn to relax into the fact that you can choose to interact differently with the events of your life. First you have to be open and willing to have a different relationship with yourself and the events in your life.
Time to practice. Right where you are, regardless of what is going on, take a deep breath with the intention to notice you have the power to shift your thoughts! This isn't some hokey trick, it is a gift that you had all along just like Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz. It's time to stop looking outside of ourselves for answers or solutions that can only be sourced from deep inside our heart and souls.
So, if you are still with me, follow along this yellow brick road. I said breathe really deep and intentionally. Notice how your attention goes inward. You cannot focus on two things at one time. Over time, as you practice, you will notice how, when and where your attention shifts. What you focus on will be magnified. It is not an avoidance of the situations in your life. It is actually a way to step away from the magnitude of it so you can observe it from a less threatening or fearful place.
As you step back, new thoughts enter. Once a less than desirable place, you find compassion and acceptance for what you are doing and noticing about the situation. You take on a different relationship with the issue. You move from a belief of there is nothing I can do here to a mindset of what can I learn about me or the situation.
The good news is that if you really listen, you will meet your fears, limiting beliefs, attachments and stories about the situation. You will see that those filters are the real obstacle, not the situation or life event. When you work more on the filters and the internal clutter that tend to magnify a situation, you will find that worry and stress are diminished.
So, click your heels and repeat after me, "there's no place like home". Home is your internal world, the real place where your reality is created about all life situations. When you change the perspective, you change your reality.
Contact me at 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com to partner with you in co-creating your guided action plan towards peace, power and possibilities.
Have you ever heard that phrase, low hanging fruit?
For today I will borrow the concept to suggest that for this time of year it is a perfect context to remind us that amazing experiences and outcomes are within our reach and available to us in this moment, regardless of our current life situations.
When we open our eyes to what is available right here, right now, instead of putting our solutions far out into the future or on hold indefinitely, we are better able to slow down, get present and take responsibility to move through the overwhelm, chaos and confusion that often follows an idea, goal, dream, desire or imposed life situation.
Our fast paced lifestyle has trained us to not pay attention, ignore what is not comfortable, overlook possibilities, belittle our talents and skills, react instead of respond, travel the path of least resistance, rely on a limited set of qualities or resources all the while expecting fast, cheap and effortless results. Hmmmmm.
Is it any wonder that it seems that what we want seems so far out of our grasp?
What if I told you that it doesn't have to be this way? If you are willing to put your attention on the low hanging fruit instead of what is currently out of your reach to shift, change or enhance your current situations, you will be better able to reclaim your peace, power and possibilities in current and future situations.Often times the situations or people that we most avoid, resist or judge are our low hanging fruit and must be taken care of in order for us to learn and grow while moving through anything that we assess is holding us back. When we meet life rather than resist it, we step into the natural flow of life and the universe. Each person and situation is here for you to experience a fuller expression of yourself and your wholeness. Look no further than what or whom you are avoiding or resisting to see what is holding you back in life. The next step on your journey will be illuminated.
You know what I am talking about. Those situations or people that are heavy in your thoughts and wearing you out emotionally, physically, financially or spiritually are like the low hanging, ripe fruit on a tree. The unattended fruit will fall and become toxic compost for the tree of your life.
What low hanging fruit is calling for your attention right now? What or whom are you overlooking, avoiding, resisting, judging?
Are you fertilizing your tree of life with toxic compost of addictions, limiting beliefs, grudges, unhealed conversations, ineffective actions, unhealthy relationships, misguided interpretations of your current situations or a lack of integrity?
Remember, your roots create your fruits!
What lessons, action steps, structure, plan, support or accountability can you put in place to take responsibility for the condition of the low hanging fruit on the tree of your life.
What will be the results in your emotional, physical, financial or spiritual well-being when you pay attention to the low hanging fruit and take those small, consistent and immediate actions to move through your current situations?
Contact me at 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com to partner with you in co-creating your guided action plan towards peace, power and possibilities.
Human behavior is strongly connected to environment. Don't be so quick to think that the choices you are making are really based on what is true at your core to live a life of peace, happiness or well-being.
A huge percentage of what you commit to, engage in or think about is more about your programming and conditioning than a result of your own beliefs, choices, preferences or opinions. How has your environment affected your interpretations of events, thoughts, beliefs, behavior and results?
We are creatures of habit. Because of that, it isn't in our nature to explore, go against the status quo, step outside of our usual way of doing things or ask a lot of questions on how to do things differently. We do what we do because it is the way it has always been done in our environment.
As a result of that, it isn't surprising that most people live just above or just below their threshold of tolerance for the condition of the situations in their lives. They know they aren't happy or fulfilled yet they don't take responsibility to do anything about it for fear of interrupting the tribal comfort zone. The problem is that zone isn't so comfortable any longer.
For how many of us has that become an accepted and unquestioned existence? There might be the occasional thought or hope for things to be different but we never really step out of the status quo for long periods of time. We settle for a less than peaceful, joyful or fulfilled experience.
Interrupting your personal threshold of tolerance will require you to get out of the Tribal Comfort Zone and take responsibility for the deeper longings of your soul. It is the difference between merely surviving and thriving.
I invite you to examine all those situations, people, fears, beliefs, moods, etc. that keep you living on a threshold of tolerance.
What is your next edge of growth, discovery or situation that is calling for you to push the envelope of your current comfort zone and threshold of tolerance?
I look forward to partnering with you to bust through your THRESHOLD OF TOLERANCE!
Contact me @ 985-860-8861 or denise@empoweringpotential.com to get started rediscovering, reclaiming and reinventing a FULLY EXPRESSED LIFE. YOU HAVE THE POWER to reinvent yourself moment by moment. ARE YOU READY to experience how good it could really be -TO BE YOU?
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